About inflated expectations

Have you ever thought about the question, why there are so many unhappy people

? A happy man is very difficult to meet, so it seems that life is full of bitterness and turmoil - it is normal

. In fact, it should not be: the normal state of mind - the joy and peace

. Unhappy we do high expectations for themselves, loved ones, their level of wealth, career and a lot of what.




A person with excessive expectations seems that his unstable home environment and able to blame their own shortcomings.

He sure is nervous because of the inconsistency of reality to his desires, and to calm down, must ensure that the dreams come true. But high expectations differ from the common desire to improve what they are groundless - are not supported by the real possibilities of the object being sent

. In fact, it is a psychological deviation that is accompanied by anxiety, nervousness, suspiciousness. Those who got the syndrome of excessive desires always think that they deserve more than they have. At the same time such people often do not realize that not correspond to the level of their own requests.

So, they can apply for positions that do not have a residual qualifications; dream of marrying an idol or to marry a celebrity. The ceiling in their ambition does not exist.

The conflict of the real and fictional world, the inability to achieve the goal again creates anxiety and concern - the circle closes

. This syndrome stems from an inferiority complex - through external attributes (beautiful wife, wealth, luxury house) people trying to compensate for the internal self-sufficiency is not

. Get out of life "from the gate turn," he further immersed in a complex. From unreasonable demands suffering and the surrounding, and the man himself.

Very often it is seen in relation to the wives of husbands - women always think that her husband is not good enough, do not earn much, it is not able to properly perform its tasks. However, she forgets, which is not ideal. Wife loved gnawing itself constantly frustrated by its slowness.

We do the same and we are with children, demanding that they be akkuratistami and geeks - and in fact they are just kids perceive the world through error

. Excessive demands manifested to me: to be the best, to do everything at the highest level - hence the perfectionism

. But here's the catch - we often worth exactly what we get. And our mental harmony depends on perception. Either we are too demanding of his life - and therefore unhappy by the fact that it does not meet our high expectations, or take it for what it is. You just need to remember that the husband (wife) and children - living people, they also have their weaknesses, and not all born to be presidents million companies ...

The first step in the fight against the syndrome inflated expectations - his awareness, understanding that this is a trap of self-deception, which can not be caught. If all the time to think about what things could be better, it is possible to suffer from it forever, since there is no limit to perfection.

The most profitable investment, as a rule, invest in yourself. It would be naive to think that getting a diploma of higher education ensures a successful future life.
Only constant self-development makes a person interesting, both for others and myself.

Author: Mikhail E. Litvak