Under the new year often comes to mind the idea of summing up some interim results of life. Writer and blogger Olesya Novikova shared with readers the vital conclusions that are formulated for the lived in '32. < Website publish for you a wonderful and wise position Olesya.
Scary everyone. and beautiful and talented, and smart, and lucky. Start new. Out of the usual circle. To risk. Doing something that is not yet used. It is terrible for the family. For business. During his life, if the squeeze. And much more. Fear will continue. No matter how many experience, practice, confidence, recognition, money, talent, but every time brandishing a new height, each time coming on the scene, each time turning on close - to a greater or lesser extent the fear. This is normal. This means that you are still alive. And then you need to go forward. Through fear. And do not try to completely get rid of it. Life without change there. Stability is illusory. We are constantly on the move. We are constantly changing external and internal, these processes do not stop for a second. And second, as a measure of measurement, even here a lot. Processes are every moment. This set is seconds. Question: "change or not change?" At a reasonable person can not stand. Just: "Do I have the attitude to these changes and to what extent?» < Quickly - is slowly but without interruption. Do not need fast, intense, cool, very powerful. One need only regularly. The most important thing - to keep the rhythm. In a little bit, but with a stable consistency. And after some time, from the outside, it looks as fast intensely cool and very powerful. To create more than consume. Otherwise, everything. Hopelessness consumer ornately woven into a meaningful conclusion: "Everything is good, but not good." Man must do something. Voluntarily and loving. This is the formula of his mental health. A bonus that is interesting - it's the only way to enjoy the pleasure of consumption, which will not destroy it. We can assume this process - mentally healthy metabolism. Today - this is what you did and thought yesterday, and tomorrow - that's what you're doing and think today. This phrase should be repeated, like a mantra for as long as it reaches your parents are not relevant to your adult issues. Anyway, they are not to blame, there is no one to replace the plate in your head, which devoured since childhood. There's no guarantee. The basic rule of the universe through which you need to pass all the decisions and plans. The era of secret knowledge that can make a difference, over. As the era of health information. Already five years, as the knowledge is not the main currency in question and the achievement of a meaningful existence. Internet their devalued its availability. It was replaced by concentration. The ability to maintain attention on the task and do not spill the interest - that's who governs. And this skill is directly dependent on the information noise, which is now everywhere. The more verbal garbage around - the weaker the focus. The more the thoughts of others, the quieter your own voice. Constant presence in the online stream atrophies the ability to self-realization, replacing the essence of the concept of what it is. The joy and pleasure - not the same thing. We will never get the joy of chocolate cake, wine glass of wine or a cigarette. We do not get pleasure from your new boots or spirits. It is important to call things by their names - we enjoy. And here's another chemistry. The nature of this feeling is very short-lived and is inextricably linked with the subsequent dissatisfaction, boredom, satiety and desire of a new portion. Do not be afraid to refuse to itself in pleasures, terrible not to have known the joy. The suffering there. The Buddha was right after all. The suffering there. Everyone suffers. And those who have nothing, and those who have everything. And who exactly at this moment does not suffer, will go to a pain in the following as soon as changes the dollar, there will be a terrorist attack, will receive a response that did not like him, see the dirty staircase, do not wait for an answer to the message does not receive the money or any other breeze. The suffering there. And always without reason, if you remember the ending of any human being. can not be happy all. Is every person can be happy? Yes of course! But this theory. In practice, consistently happy, that is calm, balanced, benevolent, if you wish, may be only those who have attained the discipline of the mind. Whose mind is capable of (trained) are not jerky at all the many occasions that surround it. Who can remain in equilibrium joy not only in calm weather, but in a burst of unpleasant situations. Otherwise, all the endless excuses from scratch on your car will throw you in pain, irritation and anxiety. And this is just some kind of a machine, and there is the same situation and serious. Happy a hunted mind reacts to any occurrence, can only be described in the status Instagrama. Joy - a balance of mind. Tell me 5 years ago, so I'd shook his temple. When you day and night to dream big bright love, happy family, an interesting profitable business, the ability to work for themselves and not for another, busy travel life, it seems that, after all, do you have any idea of joy, at least , on its own. Yes, you are now largely not satisfied, but something that can bring you out of yourself, but you are in anguish. So it is understandable. But you know what to strive for. Do you know where your tangible lasting joy, looking on their own, so alluring, dream. Joy - a state of complete peace of mind equilibrium, which is achieved with the release of the Blind (automatic) responses of the mind itself. Healthy, perhaps the only way to know (and develop) this condition in adulthood - a deep meditation observation. Fruit - not acidic and alkaline foods. If in a scientific, fresh ripe fruit and almost all vegetables cause the body alkaline and help to neutralize excess acid in it, and starch, sugar, meat, fats, oil, dairy products, on the contrary, the body becomes acidic. Full description are in Table N. Walker and R. Pope, which is available through Google. «My body itself knows that it is better" - one of the most insidious traps of the mind. The body of the alcoholic wants to drink, the body of a cigarette smoker's dream, our body craves chocolate and fries. What kind of "know better" all say? As well as the mind lives automatic responses, not giving a person to do the basic motions of his life, and the body obeys habits and chaotic impulses of lust. Power affects not only our body but also our consciousness. Like alcohol, which significantly alters our consciousness, dulling it, some of the products bear a similar effect, but in a less pronounced and often unconscious form. Food may slow and defocus head, weakening control, the power of awareness and clarity of perception. Slightly "blurred" state becomes normal level, allowing a person to forget what it means to ease and clarity really is. Most "free" food - it is fresh fruits and vegetables as well as cereals and vegetable food, cooked in a simple manner with a minimum of oil, spices and salt. Money needed so much to think about them. Money does not solve the main question of humanity - they do not make its owner happy. But the opportunity not to think about them, at least at home, essentially releases energy for other processes. We're all much more similar than different. The value of the personal uniqueness greatly exaggerated and does not allow us to quickly solve their problems. All the answers and solutions exist for a long time, and the obsession with their uniqueness does not give a man push your ego to where it would be useful to be always and without interference to perceive the surrounding reality with all the answers and tips. The dependence is treated only 100% failure rate. You can not drink one glass of wine, if you're an alcoholic. You can not smoke sometimes when trying to quit. You will constantly twist. Ups and downs. Breakdown. In matters of psychotronic "hooks" no halftones. This rule is firm for all types of dependencies. 100% state of inner willingness to change does not exist. We are not fully prepared for the twists and changes. There is always a strong "but" and causes a bit put off until a more favorable situation. It is useless to wait for a clear internal consensus, should be resolved based on the most "high time" than ephemeral readiness. life - a book, the first chapter of which were not written to you. Yes, and next - too often. We are composed of beliefs and patterns of the world around us, and this world - not an abstract planet Earth, and quite concrete staircase, office, home - a place where we spend time. They are friends, colleagues, parents, salespeople in the store that comes up every evening. This tape in social networks and so-called friends from Facebook. We absorb the views, positions, viewpoints just automatically, we inhale them from the air and become the same or opposite vice versa, which is also the time of the automatic denial. As a child, this process is completely out of control. The essence of our being collected by other people, and informed parental investment (if it ever was) there is not dominant. What we believe is and what we need to be afraid to lose according to some psychologists - just varying degrees of beauty mosaic of our environment. Nothing to lose. I think that's great news. You can redraw all in any sort of way. The result - a number of times. instead of one well-aimed shot. And certainly not in the long term success. What you helped at one stage may be an obstacle for the next release. The ability for profound changes characterized by the ability to give. But not only on what's stopping you. Sometimes it is very important to give up what you helped in the past. A simple example: the rule of small business do not work in the middle. Growing up without giving up some of them, even though they raised the process yesterday - it is impossible. Also with the human personality - its installations, plan. For the comfort zone is a zone of discomfort. Instead of a box of chocolates. Life without a purpose does not exist. As well as the state of no change. The only question is: Do you you put these objectives itself or left to the instincts (the unconscious goals). Lenya - does not exist. There are unloved class, lack of energy and lack of large-scale vision to capture the spirit of the new prospects. And there is no laziness. Self can not be found, you can only create itself. Search for nothing and nobody. You always here and now. And your way - that's what you have under your feet in this particular moment, nothing more. The very "own" way different from what it is not only the fact of awareness going, which paves albeit small, but quite tangible goal. When the target is determined by other people, or they germinate erratically through the word "should" - there is no way, there is a set of disparate episodes restless. Alcohol is not needed. general. Missed potential causes pain. It is futile to hide from the fact that in the selected level of comfort and beautiful philosophies, the same stories about femininity, motherhood and more. For every talent with our demand. Banks should pay you, not you to them. It's the only possible financial health. Never should never buy something that is not earned. Never. Anyway, if you dream of a major change. We pay the bank not only money, but also of its free energy. Spaces for risk and adventure virtually no progress. A break of this state (especially a new financial level) is hardly possible. The two abilities that you need to learn as soon as possible: the ability to strain and the ability to relax. Any movement requires exertion at one time or another. If you go at it reluctantly, out of necessity - and consumes twice as much energy. Some on the very effort, the rest - on the mental stress. On the inner struggle. Hence the need to learn how to strain at will, to love their effort. With the ability to exert voluntarily, seeing it as extremely positive aspect, the amount spent by the forces will be reduced significantly. It will be getting more and easier. And the ability to relax - to accept reality as it is, to let go of their own expectations, unleashing internal nodes and removing the physical strain - the second wing, without which one voltage do not take one far. The two answers that you need to learn as soon as possible, "Yes" and "No». to say "yes" to people situations and despite the lack of guarantees full internal readiness and various external circumstances. And to say "no" in the first place to himself - his weaknesses, fears and inner promiscuity. And only far later - other people. Cool things are different from the ability to do good to forget yourself. Creator is different from the person who is doing something good that puts itself above case, in the process of dissolving the ego. And he does it consciously and loving, not by choice or lack of a sense of duty. So a marketer can be a true musician in the profession, as a musician, so for life and is for those who deal with music. Everyone met in the way of a sign always has at least three interpretations. 1. Maybe this really a sign! 2. Maybe you're delusional and stretching the facts behind the ears. 3. Maybe this test - the phenomenon of the opposite sign - an attempt to ward off the chosen path, as a test of sincerity of your intentions and power solutions.
Author: Olesya Novikova, edition: Re-self.ru