Speak correctly!

These 16 tips will make your communication with other people is much legche.Inogda us so difficult to agree with the others, although it seems that we do not utter anything wrong. Psychologists say that often hinder productive communication familiar to us the word.

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Talk «and» «but» example : «That you have done well, and if you ...»
instead of : «Yes, it's good, but you should ...»
Because "but" negates all that has been said before him. Talk «and» «yet» example : «I understand that you can not answer so fast and so let's ...»
instead of : «I understand that you can not answer right now, and yet it would be better ...»
Because "all the same," said the source that you deeply care about his wishes, expectations, doubts or questions. Use the word «for» «against» example : «In order for something has changed, I will record in the sports section».
instead of : «What would I still come up against boredom?" Avoid rough «No» «No» «honest» «wrong» «not now» «No» example : «In this form, I do not like"; "At the moment I do not have time for it».
instead of : «No, I do not like it"; "No, I have no time».
Because "no" repulsive. "No" - it is something completed and the final decision. Change the angle of view, using the word «already» «More» example : «You have done half».
instead of : «You still only half done?»
Because the word "already" turning a little into a lot. Forever remember the word «only» «just» example : «This is my opinion"; "This is my idea».
instead of : «I just express my opinion"; "It's just such an idea».
Because "only" and "just" do your words excuse. Remove the word «wrong» example: «It did not work out as expected. Let's think about how to fix the error, or to avoid it in the future ».
instead of : «Wrong! This is all your fault. " Talk «in» «in so much» «somewhere» «near» example : «I call on Friday"; "I'll call you tomorrow at 11 o'clock».
instead of : «I'll call you later in the week"; "I'll call you tomorrow around 11". Ask open-ended questions. Not content with monosyllabic answers «yes» «No» example : «How do you like it?"; "When can I call you back?».
instead of : «Do you like it?"; "You will be able to call you back?».
Because the questions starting with "how", "what" or "who" is produced valuable information. Use the expression «From this moment on, I ...» «if I ...» example : «From this moment I will carefully listen to the advice».
instead of : «If I had listened to his advice, then this would have happened».
Because "if I ..." regrets that it has been, and rarely makes it go further. It is better to look to the future. The phrase "from now on I ..." - a good basis for such a position. Stop evading using the «ought» «have to be» better : «It is important to do this job in the first place».
instead of : «It is necessary to think about it"; "You have to first finish the job».
"It would be necessary" and "would need to" not say anything specific. It is better to clearly name of (or something) who or what you're talking ("I" - "you" - "you" - "we are»).
example : «You should finish it"; "You should give priority to this work." Talk «I do» «I wish» «I» example : «I would like first to think a little"; "I first gather the necessary information».
instead of : «I must first think a little"; "I have to collect information».
"I have to" is due to coercion, pressure or external definition. Everything that you do with such a setting, you do involuntarily. "I do" or "I would like" sounds much more positive for other, more friendly and motivated. Cross out the word «actually» «fact» example : «That's right».
instead of : «Well, actually, it's right».
"Generally" contains no information and is perceived as a limitation. Talk «I recommend you» «you have to» example : «I advise you to trust me"; "I encourage you to think about it"; "I advise you to take a decision as soon as possible».
The word "should" you expose the interlocutor pressure and robs him an opportunity to make a decision. "I recommend that you" sounds much more friendly and positive.



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