How to find my calling (new article from Oliver Emberton)

Too many of us believe in the existence of magic substance called "vocation." "If only I could find my calling," - bitterly we say. «I would be happy if I found my calling ...»

What to say? Calling - a reality, and incredibly powerful. But most of what people know about his search, is fundamentally wrong. This is what is referred to in my last article Oliver Emberton, transfer previous publication we have already put in your corporate blog here здесь. We continue to reflect on personal effectiveness!

First rule: The Calling - is a consequence of success

All our emotions arise as a consequence of something. We feel hunger to maintain vital functions of the organism, and not die from malnutrition. Saturation comes as a signal that the food sufficiently, and if there is to continue, it can burst. And we feel that we have found a vocation as a confirmation that our efforts are focused on the fact from which we obtain the best possible results.

Imagine that you are enrolled in dance courses. For you, it's easy. You quickly realize that you get better than others.

The growing excitement that you feel at this, and there is your calling. That it motivates you to come again and again, to develop skills and increase the intensity of the load.

The main enemy of such interest - disappointment. If you are constantly struggling with something, then definitely never find their calling in this. You are trying to completely avoid such situations, denying the possibility of development in this field.

Many people are aware of it over time. They think that if we find your calling - it makes us a priori in some area. In fact, it's more like self-hypnosis that you're worth something. In reality, calling - is a consequence of success.

The second rule: Childhood - a time when the call is destroyed at the root

Theoretically, a child has a unique opportunity to try yourself everywhere, discover their talents and interests.

But think for a moment how the system works against you. The school gives the opportunity to study 20 subjects, while comparing you with thousands of other children. This is far from a level playing field. Most children, by definition, have average intelligence. And it does not matter how we develop the education system, because people need to feel their exclusivity to find a vocation, and the system raises the bar just "average."

Suppose you happen, and you have shown outstanding ability in mathematics in elementary grades. The education system will contribute to your growth to a certain level - for example, to the University - where you will cease to be the exception. Even if you objectively incredibly smart, one day you will feel just middling, and found all the fuse disappears. And that's assuming that you're lucky, prone to the exact sciences.

But what if your soul is to the art? Even in childhood interest in this area is doomed to be condemned social realities. "It is impossible to make a living painting" - say your parents. "Your brother has succeeded in engineering. Why do not you go in his footsteps? ". So, you put aside all of their expectations and let them go out.

The world's population consists of billions of people. Obviously, not everyone can be an extraordinarily gifted in a limited number of academic subjects. How can that be if your talent lies in the oratory, or dance, or in the creation of video trailers on YouTube for video games? None of this is not in the school curriculum.

Thus, most of the people grows with the lack of interest in anything.

Rule three: a calling, you can create

This rule will help to understand that the most successful people are not ready to choose a scenario similar to how taking a book off the shelf.

In fact, many successful people are throwing training. Not because they were stupid - but because they have found other areas, where they found a use. The education system of this notice could not.

They created their own sphere of interest.

Only a very small proportion of people can excel in those highly specialized subjects offered in childhood school. And, in fact, your competitors in this field - "everyone who went to school." This does not increase your chances.

But if you go beyond, you will find less competition and more opportunities. And here you are making the first step to new opportunities.

Option 1: Create something

When you create something new, you invent something to be interested in at your leisure.

You can develop new design cushions or write about Batman, or to create a Twitter-account, where you write the reviews of the politicians.

New things relatively undeniable. Create something new, your ability to become special in this area are incredibly increasing.

Now it is important to note that this does not negate the first rule: a vocation - it is a consequence of success. So if your new Twitter-Account for the year collected only 5 subscribers, you are probably not very inspired by this. But if you had 5 million subscribers - you have retired from work. You must succeed in order to heat up the interest.

But at least, you have greatly expanded the possibilities, because the competition is limited. Only a few people dare to try something new. And you can become one of them, just starting.

You may find this trend as an example of outstanding personalities. Student Mark is not going to become a better programmer in the world. But he began to create good websites, and found that it leaves him very worthy, because programmers better than he had never tried to create something new. And by chance there was that one of his experiments was the small social network Facebook.

Option 2: Set the trend

The older and more authoritative becomes area of ​​your interest, the more difficult it will be to compete. Millions of people before you have tried to do it, and the less they differed from the others, the smaller gets the opportunity to find in this area of ​​her vocation.

But you can always find a new area of ​​interest - an area where every other person is absolutely unusable, and even your modest skills can be impressive.

Imagine that you are a teenager, began to shoot and upload videos to YouTube back in 2001. Subscribe to you and your growing success inspires you. By the time the "adult" world realized that YouTube - this is a promising project with chetyrehmilliardnym daily audience, you become a recognized master in the new priceless art.

This is not fiction. A huge number of YouTube users began succeeded equally, to all the others. Same story with the first bloggers, rappers and video game designer.

If you find something new that is continually evolving, and soon learned how to use it - for you will not be difficult to stand out, thanks to minimal competition. Therein lies your calling.

Possibility 3: combining abilities

The education system limits the range of your abilities. It usually is the area in which you are the most capable and develops it until you stand.

The problem is that most of us do not by definition be the best in any one area. But we can be exceptional in combinations of their abilities.

Say you're a good artist with a good sense of humor. You will not find yourself, if you get an academic degree in the arts, but will not be able to study the "humor" as the subject. But you might be a wonderful cartoonist.

Or take the average student-manager, having the ability to programming skills and decent sales. This man is remarkably well suited for the role of leader for those who were better than him only in any one area.

The most successful people almost impossible to describe, as specialists in any one area. They represent a set of skills and abilities, and often outstanding. But they made this collection special. Steve Jobs was not the best engineers in the world or consummate salespeople, a designer or a businessman. But he was nice enough to conclusively in all these areas, and made them much more.

The main board on the way to finding his calling: combine their abilities into something more valuable. Remember vocation - is a consequence of success. If the combination of your ability to effectively, and in this may be your calling.

Why it is important vocation? B>

Calling attractive. Since it is based on a belief in its exclusivity, something to be concerned - a sure way to say, "By the way, I'm cool».

Your interest will force people to follow you. Make them believe you. But more importantly - your passion will interest you. Interest - an emotion that seeks to make you go crazy and climbed out of the skins just because you sincerely believe that it can change the world. This passion, like love - a feeling that is worth fighting for.

And as love, what you yourself find too important to leave it to its fate. If you have not yet found their calling, make discoveries, ask trends combine abilities. But never stops searching for something new!

Good luck!

P.S. B> If the author's article sparked your interest to his other publications, in addition to the beginning of the нашего Translation , you can also read more in Russian здесь (Perhaps the most popular of them - the original author of the site to share more than 550 000 times!), here and здесь .



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