How to become an interesting conversationalist



How often do we dream about, to please one and all? And how do I do it! One has to be fun, interesting, charismatic, a good listener. The list is very long. But that's what it's worth noting. You can not appeal to absolutely everyone. But if you like anyone and everyone can not be that person that just interesting to talk still can. It is also difficult and requires many qualities, but at least it's real. And for that you need to follow a few rules. Do not be a bore very difficult for us to understand that we are boring at this point in time, because each of us considers himself the best around. You tell an interesting story and see that people yawn? Perhaps this story is not as interesting as it sounds. Try to complete it and to speak to others. The most charismatic people are always good listeners People love to talk about how cool and that's why there is always a shortage of good listeners. Give your interlocutor to tell you about myself. Ask him to counter questions. Strange, but the people who love us the most, always say little. Discuss interests interlocutor This problem is very well revealed in the book of Dale Carnegie, a review of which you can find here. Ask your friend about his hobby, ask questions. And discuss them. You are already at 80% close to having to please. If you are well versed in the hobby interlocutor, you can easily keep the conversation going. If not, then ask him in detail. He will tell you with great pleasure. Rule 3 stories for people not interested in the features of your new phone. What really gets them, so this is a real story that happened to you. Dramas and reality shows have become popular for a reason. Therefore, always keep in reserve three interesting stories that can be told. These stories should be exciting, emotional and attractive. People must be wondering what will happen the next minute? In a word charisma invest so much sense that it becomes difficult to understand what it still means. Someone says that a charismatic born, and someone thinks that this skill is developed over the years. But here's what's interesting: A study conducted by two psychologists in 1967 proved that in conversation, only 7% of attention falls on the word. The rest pays attention interlocutor tone of voice and body language.
Laugh. Smile. Be emotional. Do not forget the gesture and not rely solely on the word. Live an interesting life Communicate with interesting people, read interesting books. People with whom you spend your time very much affect your character, whether you like it or not. The proper way to be interesting - it's live an interesting life. And believe me, it will give you much more than just an opportunity to be an interesting conversationalist.

Source: lifehacker.ru/2014/03/17/kak-stat-interesnym-sobesednikom/

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