The son brought the daughter-in-law to the screens, it seems like a good girl, but there is a nuance

It is normal for a young couple to receive parental blessing Marriage. After all, modern youth can not always filter out real feelings and the usual momentary love. Their thoughts overshadow passion, attraction and other different emotions. As a result, an unhappy marriage, a family in which everyone hates each other, and a painful divorce with grievances and court. Such a serious issue must be dealt with in detail.



However, there are cases when parents behave inadequately, not wanting to see their child happy. The blessings of the parents have nothing to do with it. They don’t think he’s grown up for such a decision yet. Or they have their own personal plans for it. The reasons can be infinite. And then there are conflicts of a completely different kind. Especially if there is a conservative upbringing in the family. Where the will of mom and dad is the ultimate truth.

Many modern women today criticize patriarchy. The whole system, with its pros and cons, but I grew up on it. My father was a military man, and I was used to the fact that everything in our house was clear and on schedule. No, don't think about it, he wasn't a typical soldier who wanted to turn everything into a barracks. We just had a kind of order and discipline. I learned in high school how infantile some girls are. Why is that? Because of the wrong, too soft upbringing.

Then I met my future husband, and my outlook served me well. Because I chose my loved one for life, without the right to make a mistake. Immediately weeded out hopeless romantics, sullen nerds and narcissistic talkers. Yes, with some of them it would even be comfortable to spend some time. But it's not serious. Such a relationship is just an anchor pulling you to the bottom. That's why my choice fell on Dmitry.



As expected, in family life, we agreed with him, if not in everything, then in a lot. He honestly made money for our family, didn't drink, didn't walk. He respected me and appreciated me. We raised two wonderful children and gave them everything we could. It is difficult to call me a typical housewife. I am interested in art, news, politics. And I tried to instill in my son and daughter a love for everything new. But of course, no frills.

The daughter after graduating from the institute married and moved. First to another city, and then to another country for permanent residence. I know my son-in-law very well and am happy for them both. Promising profession, serious attitude - everything as it should be. My son's a little stuck. Who knows, maybe it's because he's the youngest. He probably got a little more love and attention than his sister. Or maybe it just happened. That's the mind. Those who find themselves at an older age.

Anyway, I want to tell you not about his career growth, but about the fact that relatively recently, a year ago, he wanted to get married. And whatever, I met a future, so to speak, daughter-in-law. She's not bad. Smart, athletic. Well-groomed, but no frills. Very good, promising option. But there's one big drawback. She has a child from her first marriage. A young son of three. You think I'm just a grumpy mean woman and I don't want my son to be happy? I don't think so!



The fact is that this is not the end of the story. You see, her ex-husband is still a scoundrel and does not want to leave his ex-family alone. Masha, when she got married, was still very young, I would even say young. I didn't understand anything. She was quickly hired by her husband, some big boss, where she received all the knowledge of her profession. Now she is making good money, and in general, financially she is doing well, but only thanks to him. And it makes you think.

Her first husband soon after marriage began to actively cheat on her, and after the birth of the child, everything only worsened. However, he loved his son and still loves him. During the divorce, he and his wife entered into a contract. Masha and the child stay in a new two-storey apartment in a good area of the city. She keeps working for his firm, and he doesn't pay alimony. But from time to time he sends money for gifts to his son and all sorts of small things. By my count, the money is a lot. This is parsley.



My son, of course, ex-husband Masha hates, it is understandable. A couple of times he even hinted that he did not mind suing and taking the child back. In his understanding, whoever Maria finds herself, he will not be able to take care of the child as a real father. Where was this father when he really needed him? That's right, with other women. I kept hoping that Igor, my son, would somehow change his views and sympathies, especially given the situation with the child. But, unfortunately, he does not mind raising another child and constantly seeing his biological father.

As I said before, there are not enough stars from the sky. There is an official job, the salary is above average, but that's it. Competing with his ex-fiancée financially, he may not even hope. As a woman, I know what it is when there is something to compare it to. Perhaps now Masha and has some feelings for Igor. It might even last a while. But, in the end, she will still choose reliability and a full life. Maybe even go back to his ex. Especially since he, as I understand it, does not even mind.



A woman who works for her ex, who sees him every day, who has a child with him, simply cannot do otherwise. Let the youth say today that it does not matter and every girl is free to do what she wants, nature will take its own. She used to be able to afford a lot. And now she has a normal life with a child who may never call my son dad. I'm not talking about travel, gifts, and other blessings of a rich life.

On the one hand, I understand that their union will be short-lived. But I can't say that to my son. On the other hand, Igor is in love with his passion and ready to marry tomorrow. He doesn't need the blessing of his parents. And she supports that idea, too. At least not yet. They're young, they still don't think with their heads, just hormones. Since childhood, I have learned that the most important thing is to look to the future. And make the right conclusions for yourself.



In short, she gave her son and daughter-in-law an ultimatum: she stops working for her ex-husband, and let her son earn his own apartment. Or rather, the first mortgage payment. So far, they live with her, but let’s face it, Igor was a regular resident there. And to throw it out after the first serious quarrel Masha can absolutely no problems. At least he'll have a parachute. This is my parents blessing for him.

I'm lucky, and my son, though very much against it, can't do anything yet. Without my blessing, he will never marry, thank you. But our relationship is now quite strained, not to mention the way my daughter-in-law looks at me when she meets me: my teeth are creaking. This has been going on for a year now and I have no intention of backing down. I literally have no other choice. Call me whatever you want, but my son won't have any family. Not in this situation. And then he'll grow up and be able to thank me. It is not my fault that I have lived my life and know some of its twists and turns much better than modern youth.