The departure of the family turned out to be an ice slide to hell for a 50-year-old husband, about such consequences he did not even suspect. Bashny.Net

In the minds of modern people is firmly rooted in the idea that perfect There are only two adults who earn well. Kids are optional. The main thing is the financial component. Oh, yes, and household chores are distributed equally to each spouse. Although a few decades ago, a man was considered the head of the family, and a woman devoted most of her time to household care and raising children.

Ideal Family

It is not for us to judge how people decide to live in our time. Personal life should be beyond the participation of others. However, as practice shows, many family problems of the past still prevent people from living normally. Even with a different view of things. Why is this happening and how to deal with it? Is it true that a broken person simply cannot be changed? He will certainly be on the same level.

Is it difficult to survive parting at the age of fifty with a ponytail? Imagine, really. When I was young, my mother and aunts told me that I was so emotional and in love. I don't know if I'm the only one who's so sensual, or if I've been given some really stupid advice that I didn't believe in. The divorce I went through 5 years ago still keeps me from crying. Until now.

A long time ago, when Dima and I were still young, I thought everything was not serious. Not that there are plans for anyone else. But judge for yourself: we study in the same university. So we'll work plus or minus together. No matter how many feelings there are between people, it is simply impossible to tolerate the same person 24/7. So even though I liked him, I tried not to get too attached to him. He asked me to marry him after six months.



Then the studies ended, and, to my surprise, Dmitry decided not to go down the beaten path, but to start his own business. This brave decision made me look at it from a different angle. And so I finally said yes to him. We didn’t have a big wedding, but we could have done it. Just at that time we did not have many friends, and to fork out in order to please relatives who no one had even seen before, did not want.

My husband opened his own auto shop and I started practicing medicine. The profession of a child speech therapist only seems boring. This is an interesting job, especially when you can see the fruits of your work in person. Proper pronunciation is an important detail in human life. It eliminates many complexes and problems, take my word for it. As a professional, I had a lot to grow. I am currently the head of one of our hospitals. But that’s another topic of conversation...



There. We had a son who had health complications. I didn’t run to the doctors I knew, which I didn’t. To help him, unfortunately, was difficult. Cerebral palsy is a disease that is difficult to treat, and people who were able to help properly can be counted on the fingers of the hand. But my husband’s business was going uphill, I was also doing what I loved, and we were able to afford to hire someone who would help my son make his life more comfortable.

The perfect family can stand it? Time passed. We've had good times, and not so good. Many of our friends and acquaintances could only say positive things about us. I thought we were a strong family and didn’t see any signs or bells that we weren’t. In addition, even age did not allow to have any intrigues. We took care of our health and physical education, so my husband and I were a lot of compliments about the appearance. But the internal experience and moral component...



The more painful it was for me to learn that my husband, Dima, had started cheating on me. My neighbor hinted at it once. And after we talked, he confessed himself. She was a young woman who had helped her son before. She spent a lot of time at our house, but I never thought it would turn out like this. And she stayed with us in total only a few months. One way or another, three or four days later, the husband said he was sorry, but he couldn't do it anymore. He packed some of his things and went to another. Then divorce, lawyers, documents...

As I said, 5 years have passed since then. I became a robot that was either at home or at work. Okay. From my husband, I received huge alimony, which I spent only on my son. Accounts, clothes and food were behind me, but counting the money was just not interesting. Why? I didn’t even know why I would do anything at all. Depression sucked me deeper and deeper. I remembered the old days and asked myself, how could this happen? What did Dmitri lack in me, what did he find in a stranger?



Peels went to a psychologist. Not long, a couple of months. It seemed to me that she, as a specialist, behaved very strangely. It was like projecting something in our sessions. I blamed everything on the former and the entire male family. But I didn't ask for support. I just wanted to figure it out. I didn't need a friend at the time. Only good advice from a knowledgeable person. She was having a lot more fun, so thank you.

Why am I saying this? I saw an ex recently. He came himself. But I didn't open the door, I went out to him. I didn't want my son to see my father. Especially in this state. Dimitri's really pissed. His clothes showed he was still doing well financially. But a gray, almost earthy face and an extinct look said a lot. I asked him if he was sick. Not why he came or what his lover was like. The question about the disease just asked itself.

Turns out I did. Sick. And he doesn't have much left. Now Dima wants to be with us for a couple of days before going to the hospital. He, regardless of my decision, will give us half the money. And half that other woman. But now he really needs his family, a real family. Even though it's been a long time, I don't know how I can say no. He left, but before leaving, I vowed to think. What's to think?



Peels hasn't spoken to his son yet. But I think we should. Tonight or tomorrow morning. There's no time. Can you tell me if I would do the right thing if I accepted my ex’s request? Or will it only hurt me because of my decision? Everything so piled up at once that the head just splits. And I'm afraid I'm wrong.