The story of a husband who decided to leave the family because he was tired of a complete mess in the house

Disorder in the house has a bad effect on mood and emotional state. After all, when home is uncomfortable, it is difficult to relax and relax there. All this discontent builds up and turns into chronic stress. For the hero of our story, a complete mess in the apartment even became a reason to leave the family.



Editorial "Site" He shares his story and suggests discussing whether he did the right thing.

I've endured for a long time, but I can't anymore. I don't want to go back to my own house. I work from morning till night. A lot of work, you have to give everything to earn more. I come late enough. But nothing changes at home. From the threshold there are some things, toys, garbage. There are unwashed dishes in the kitchen sink. There's a lot of stuff in the bedroom.



My wife Lena is on maternity leave with her two-year-old son. What a sin to hide, the mistress of her bad. When we lived together, keeping the house in order was easier. We cleaned together on weekends and that was enough for a week. But with the baby, everything changed.

There are so many different things. Added children's clothes, toys and a bunch of little things. Since then, our apartment has become a real dump. There is no place to be so as not to stumble upon some dirt.



I told Lena I wouldn't do the cleaning. I don’t have time to do it, I make money for my family. She stays at home all day. Yes, the child is mobile, often restores its order in the house. But isn’t there time to clean up all of this? It’s hard to know what she’s been doing all day. Sometimes I come home and she just sits on the couch. It's a mess and she's just lying there.

More than once I told her how angry I was with the mess. You can’t sleep in a house where it’s so dirty. It's just physically uncomfortable! But Lena refuses to understand that. I begged her, begged her, fought her, boycotted her. But this is enough for a day or two, and then the apartment again turns into chaos. This time my patience ran out.



A couple of days ago I came home and saw the same familiar picture. In the sink of dishes, which remained the day before yesterday. The mountain of things to iron has only grown. The son sits near the closet in the corridor and takes out some things, throwing them on the floor. My wife is lying on the couch and doing nothing. Just watching this whole mess.



My nerves couldn't stand it. I packed the necessary things and went to live with my mother. I gave my wife a couple of days to think: either she changes her attitude to cleaning or we get divorced. I've been at my mom's for four days. For the first time in a long time, it is clean and comfortable. I had time to think, and I doubted. Did I do the right thing to my wife? Is a complete mess in the apartment a reason for divorce?



We think that the man was very upset with his cardinal decision. It is clear that he is tired at work. He wants comfort and comfort at home. However, he took care of the child and household on his wife’s shoulders. He didn't even try to talk to her.

Judging by the story, the wife may have some problems. Maybe something is bothering her and she needs help. But the husband decided not to be interested, and just went to live with his mother. We think he needs to be less selfish and try to talk to his wife again. It's a little silly to get divorced over unwashed plates. What do you think of that?