My son was stunned by the news that his girlfriend was pregnant, but I don’t want to be a grandmother at 45. Bashny.Net

“My adult son is about to become a father. This came as a surprise to me as the news was reported at 7 weeks pregnant. I don't know what to do. I don't feel like a grandmother at all, I'm only 45 and my son is 26 this year. What's the hurry? - nervous Alla Mikhailovna.



Should children as adults consult their parents about family relationships and childbirth? The truth is that many parents are not ready to let the adult chicks out of their nest and this often destroys the personal life of their offspring and spoils relationships.



My adult son, Anya and Vadim have been dating for only three years. They don't even live together yet. Yesterday my son told me that Anya was 7 weeks pregnant and that she was going to give birth. Anya is four years younger than my son, she is 22 now. The girl is going to go to correspondence education and look for a part-time job, and Vadim, although she works now, is not at all in the position that will provide his family with a comfortable life.



And what to think about - lovers do not know each other at all, I am shocked that it came to this. I have always warned Vadim that it is necessary to protect themselves, and it is not only the children, but the health! I’ve been talking about it many times, but when I asked him how it happened, he just shrugged.



Anya lives in a dormitory, she barely has enough money for food, how is this girl going to give birth, in what conditions? Where will they live? After hearing this, my head immediately fell ill. I can't believe this is happening. I'm afraid most of the costs will fall on my shoulders. And I just raised my child, I don’t want to listen to children’s cries again and teach young people to raise children.



Talking to my son today, trying to make sense. But what is it? They are both lovers and dream of a family. I can't believe my son grew up so naive and stupid. Didn't I teach him anything? When I offered to go to the specialists and terminate the pregnancy before it was too late, Vadim left, slamming the door. He's not talking to me anymore. Going to rent an apartment.”



Life wisdom and editorial advice The story of Alla Mikhailovna is not unique. When a young man grows up and is ready to build a personal life, the mother, who until then was both a friend and an adviser, suddenly becomes not the most necessary woman in the world. Unfortunately, the separation of children from their parents is rarely without conflict. Only if parents begin to interfere in the relationship of their adult children, they risk losing contact with them forever.

A woman should look at the situation from a different angle, put herself in the place of a young girl. 26 years ago, she was just as young and stupid and if someone had advised her to get rid of the baby, what would she have done? Now Alla Mikhailovna is trying to keep an adult child near her. The truth is that Vadim is no longer a child, he is a grown man who can make independent decisions. What if he's happy? What would you do in the place of Alla Mikhailovna, do you think that the woman is right?