While my husband and his mother were hanging out at the market, I immediately packed my things and went to my mother, I will not return for any rugs.

“My mother always told me, ‘If you want a strong family, never live with your parents.’” I've been living with her for a month now because I've had a misunderstanding of my husband. I had to move to my mother with a child because I can not stand such treatment, says Natalia. Now the ex asks her to return, but the woman is determined to divorce.



The most annoying thing is that Oleg sincerely does not understand why I left. In his opinion, he provided me and our son with everything necessary for a comfortable life. And his mother always told him I had to kiss her hands for letting him live in her house. At the time, she didn’t want to hear that we were going to rent a house. She offered to move in with her, so as not to give money to strangers, like my sister.

My mother-in-law loved to blame my family for everything, and my husband stood up for me. Not for long, though. At first he asked not to pay attention to the criticism of his mother, but eventually he took her side. Things got worse when I had a baby. Probably, my mother-in-law became crowded, my husband and I did not sleep for the first year, and Lyudmila Fedorovna only applied cold compresses to her forehead and moaned.



And every day she taught me. Like, it is not necessary to swaddle the child, and he does not need diapers, it is better to swaddle in cotton in the old-fashioned way and wash everything by hand. I was a bad mother to her. Lyudmila Fedorovna often redesigned baby food, and sometimes stood at the stove instead of me, because I do not cook well, according to her.



Slowly my husband became irritable and began to make complaints to me. And when it came to registering his son in his house, Oleg changed the subject. I thought that since the husband is registered with his mother in the house, he will undertake to register his child here. I never claimed their living space, but they didn't believe me.

As a result, my mother-in-law refused to register my grandson in her home, and I had to register my son with my mother, where I am registered, since I do not have my own housing. The child grew, had to spend more money on clothes and food for the baby, and on this basis the conflict broke out. Since I was on maternity leave, I did not have my own money, I received assistance from the state for the child, but these funds were not enough.



The husband agreed to allocate part of the budget for his son, but after each purchase demanded a report. I don’t know if I had anything to wear this winter. My old boots were thin, but there was no new money. I have been wearing autumn shoes all season. Things are getting worse now.



Lyudmila Fedorovna believes that I spend too much money, and Oleg needs to control even what I am charged for the child. I couldn't stand it. While Oleg and his mother went shopping at the market, I collected all my things, which fit in one suitcase and left with the child in a taxi to my mother.

My mom doesn’t mind us living with her. She loves her grandson very much. And I'm not going back to my husband, because I don't want to account for every hairpin I buy for the rest of my life. Oleg called, apologized, tried to get me back, but I know he will never change. I said I was filing for divorce.”



While a man lives with his mother, only she will be his authority. For a man, his mother is his best friend and adviser. Psychologists believe that until a man leaves his mother, he will not be able to get along with a woman. There is a very small percentage of people who coexist peacefully. But, as practice shows, this is rather an exception to the rule.

Financial matters should be discussed before the wedding. They are separated from their parents but not yet married. They have time to study each other’s habits and see if they fit together. Finance is not accepted to discuss, many are guided by patriarchal stereotypes, and in the end face a misunderstanding. Everyone’s attitude towards money is different. When children appear, spouses try to stay afloat for the sake of descendants. In fact, Natalia has taken a serious but sure step towards the psychological health of her and her child.