Stop being young: gray hair, wrinkles and cellulite are real beauty! Why are you dyeing your hair? Bashny.Net

Sometimes you ask yourself: do you live exactly as you want, or wriggle to the tune of society? This applies to the appearance, and work, and views on life. But one thing is hard to disagree with: aging is not easy for women. We are under the impression that beauty equals youthYouth equals power. It's such a double whammy: ageism and sexism.





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“I had an idea a couple of years ago. I wondered how many women are now dyeing their hair to hide their gray hair! How much effort, how much expense, and all to make the absence of youth invisible. But when a social group becomes invisible, it suggests that it has a problem, says psychologist and sociologist Ashton Applewhite.





She is the author of a number of books, including This Chair Is Shattered. Manifesto against Ageism. Applewhite advocates that a woman should love herself at any age, and urges women in any case not to get younger, because, in her opinion, this is ridiculous and absurd. Editorial "Site" I'll tell you what Ashton's opinion is based on.





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Natural beauty Age and appearance Women are connected, but that doesn’t mean she gets ugly over the years. On the contrary, it only blossoms, and the appearance reflects all internal experiences and life experiences. Isn't that beautiful? But most women try to hide all this under a ton of makeup, hair dye or become victims of cosmetics and plastic surgery.





Ashton once posted on her social media page: “Imagine the world seeing how many of us are and how beautiful we are!” Imagine that we all changed in solidarity and declared next year the Year of Grey Hair! That would be a turning point! To which readers wrote that she has no right to tell women, and even better, let her start with herself. Which the psychologist did.





Ashton Applewhite doesn’t impose her opinion on women, she just encourages them to think sanely. In her opinion, trying to pass for a younger woman is about the same as trying to pass for a homosexual or a black man for a white. This behavior is rooted in shame for something you don’t really need to be ashamed of.

Hence the discrimination that makes such behavior necessary. After all, usually a gray-haired woman with wrinkles is called ungroomed.





Just open the fashionable gloss and see the calls to change yourself: lips, eyelashes, hair, nose, chest and even the shape of the legs. What are we worth if we agree to this? We're making a bad deal. It leads to failure. She's pitting us against each other. Women’s dissatisfaction with their appearance allows a multi-million dollar business related to skin care and weight loss to flourish.





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“Do we really think we’ve become the worst version of ourselves with age?” Less interesting, less skilled in bed, less meaningful than the woman we used to be? If we think so, who gave us these ideas and for what purpose? Of course, with age, we lose something, but it also brings benefits: the disclosure of our individuality, confidence, our own vision, understanding of ourselves.





Look, for example, which of your friends leads a bright life, including sex. It's not always the beauty of Botox. These are women who are confident and able to present themselves in any form and circumstances. According to Ashton, you need to be generous to yourself: “Actress Frances McDormand laughs that vertical wrinkles on her cheeks owe her son Pedro, who for 20 years has forced her to exclaim “Wow!” and “My God!”.

She calls her face a map that reflects her entire history and is not going to wash it with plastic surgery.”





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When we were young, we were afraid that youth was passing away. Why is that? Yes, because everyone around is just saying that you will not have time to get married, you will not have children, your husband will go to the young, you will not be needed at work. This may have been true 50 years ago, but today everyone is looking at talent, charisma, skills and aspirations, not age.





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“We should make friends from other generations in order to confront these outdated views together and begin to think and act not in an “anti-ageing” way, but in a “pro-age” way. Stop talking about limitations and losses, talk about expanding our capabilities. And we can make the world look at this problem in a new way.”

Ashton and I agree that age should not stop us from enjoying life. We believe that a woman is beautiful at any age, but there is nothing wrong with her coloring gray hair or removing wrinkles with a laser. The main thing is that everything was in moderation and looked harmonious.

You don’t think a woman should pay attention to age-change In appearance or is it still worth preening with the help of cosmetics? Share your thoughts on this in the comments, and also tell about the opinion of Ashton Applewhite to your friends on social networks!