Is it possible to be happy alone?

Not having a couple means your life is bad. Many people believe that lonely They are unhappy and only dream about relationships. Since childhood, we are forced to believe that the presence of a permanent, strong relationship is the key to a happy life. Especially for women. And the one who is happy on his own is considered either not very healthy or a liar, they say, pretends.



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Are people who choose to be free more unhappy than those who live with a partner? Sociologist Bella de Paulo believes that this is nothing more than an illusion. Editorial "Site" Related: 4 Stereotypes That Bella Think Makes People lonely.

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1. "Can't find a mate."
   Many people think that single people do not have a personal life and they dream of meeting a soul mate. But according to sociological surveys, singles deliberately do not find a loved one and often have already been married or in a long-term relationship. Interestingly, divorced men were more willing to remarry than women. But those of the stronger sex who had great relationships with friends and family, with less desire to get married.
   
   “We are not disappointed in love, nor are we afraid to be rejected. These stereotypes have nothing to do with us. We love our lives alone and want to decide for ourselves how long it takes to communicate, says Bella de Paulo.
   
   
   
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2. "Suffering from loneliness"
   In the US, a study was conducted in which for 8 years people were asked if they were happy. Those who were single and then married experienced great joy in the first year after marriage. But a year later, most people felt the same way they did before marriage. This only applies to people who do not want to divorce. But those whose expectations of marriage were not met felt very unhappy. It was only after divorce and freedom, or so-called loneliness, that they felt great.
   
   
   
   
   
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3. "They're in poor health."
   Among those who have never married and live without a partner, 81.6% said their health was excellent or good. This is about the same for married people. So the bonds of marriage do not affect the state of health and life expectancy.
   
   
   
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4. "Singles are selfish."
   Another stereotype. If you live by yourself, your character is bad, and years of loneliness have turned you into an egoist. Against their background, family people seem to be reliable friends, attentive relatives and responsible workers. But research shows that singles are always better at treating their parents and are closer to siblings. They were more likely to help friends and neighbors. So while married people focus exclusively on themselves and their children, single people are more open to the world and others.
   
   
   
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Being alone or finding a soul mate is a personal choice for everyone. Loneliness can bring a person a negative only if he needs a couple, and it is not possible to find a loved one. Then yes, there may be depression, and envy, and low self-esteem against the background of the absence of a second half. In the other case, people enjoy their freedom and all that life presents.

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