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Who are singletons?
“If you’re looking to create the perfect relationship with your partner, at least one of you has to be fictional.” – Eric Kleinenberg
Eric Kleinenberg is an American sociologist, Ph.D., and author of The Life of Solo. In his work, the author gives various examples from the life of singles who are comfortable living independently, without partners and children. Eric believes that in the life of singles there is no place for boredom or longing, they, on the contrary, are very sociable and to some extent freer than their married friends and married girlfriends.
Until the twentieth century it was considered shameful not to get married and not have time to have a child. But that all changed when intellectuals, feminists, and gay people began to show up in the big cities. So they learned that you can exist differently, be freer and think in different categories.
Eric Kleinenberg says that the number of singles around the world has increased over the past 20 years, and they prove that life without a partner is normal and not humiliating.
Interestingly, according to statistics, in many developed countries it is quite natural to live without a couple, and the standard of living there is one of the highest. There is a simple explanation for this: instead of creating fragile relationships, people are engaged in self-development and try to get back on their feet first, and then start a family and children. And many people are comfortable, such people are called “singletons”.
Bella DePaulo – Ph.D., she lived all her life without a couple. liking. Bella coined the term "singilism" - discrimination against single people. She argues that the injustice to such people is unjustified and enormous, everything against them – from legislation to neglect by married people.
Bella says that people in marriage are not much happier than singletons, and often this happiness is also fleeting. Both are equally susceptible to stress, only for different reasons. While divorced people suffer from shattered hopes and unjustified expectations, living without a soul mate has long been used to this state of affairs and used to rely only on themselves. Doctor of Philosophy is sure that all the fault stereotypes formed over centuries.
In small towns, where everyone knows each other, you can immediately see who is lonely, and this can not help but become a topic for gossip. What else is there to talk about? Another thing is big cities, where singletons dissolve in a crowd of like-minded people or strangers who do not care whether they are alone or not.
Singletons live on their own and can do anything with their lives, such people are quicker to succeed: they are able to rationally build their plans exactly as they want. Of course, there are couples who live together until old age and don't even realize that they're together. What can loneliness be like?," and that's great luck. Everyone is different, and finding someone who will share the rest of your life with you is an unprecedented happiness.
No one says that it is necessary and the only right thing to be alone, as well as to marry and have children. But to be in solidarity with other people and respect their choice, even if you do not quite understand it.
Share your thoughts on this in the comments, discuss with your friends in social networks the burning topic of loneliness.
Eric Kleinenberg is an American sociologist, Ph.D., and author of The Life of Solo. In his work, the author gives various examples from the life of singles who are comfortable living independently, without partners and children. Eric believes that in the life of singles there is no place for boredom or longing, they, on the contrary, are very sociable and to some extent freer than their married friends and married girlfriends.
Until the twentieth century it was considered shameful not to get married and not have time to have a child. But that all changed when intellectuals, feminists, and gay people began to show up in the big cities. So they learned that you can exist differently, be freer and think in different categories.
Eric Kleinenberg says that the number of singles around the world has increased over the past 20 years, and they prove that life without a partner is normal and not humiliating.
Interestingly, according to statistics, in many developed countries it is quite natural to live without a couple, and the standard of living there is one of the highest. There is a simple explanation for this: instead of creating fragile relationships, people are engaged in self-development and try to get back on their feet first, and then start a family and children. And many people are comfortable, such people are called “singletons”.
Bella DePaulo – Ph.D., she lived all her life without a couple. liking. Bella coined the term "singilism" - discrimination against single people. She argues that the injustice to such people is unjustified and enormous, everything against them – from legislation to neglect by married people.
Bella says that people in marriage are not much happier than singletons, and often this happiness is also fleeting. Both are equally susceptible to stress, only for different reasons. While divorced people suffer from shattered hopes and unjustified expectations, living without a soul mate has long been used to this state of affairs and used to rely only on themselves. Doctor of Philosophy is sure that all the fault stereotypes formed over centuries.
In small towns, where everyone knows each other, you can immediately see who is lonely, and this can not help but become a topic for gossip. What else is there to talk about? Another thing is big cities, where singletons dissolve in a crowd of like-minded people or strangers who do not care whether they are alone or not.
Singletons live on their own and can do anything with their lives, such people are quicker to succeed: they are able to rationally build their plans exactly as they want. Of course, there are couples who live together until old age and don't even realize that they're together. What can loneliness be like?," and that's great luck. Everyone is different, and finding someone who will share the rest of your life with you is an unprecedented happiness.
No one says that it is necessary and the only right thing to be alone, as well as to marry and have children. But to be in solidarity with other people and respect their choice, even if you do not quite understand it.
Share your thoughts on this in the comments, discuss with your friends in social networks the burning topic of loneliness.
