Confession of the world's worst ex

Do you think a true friendship with an ex-man is possible? And should a self-respecting woman after the breakup of a love relationship agree to a friendship with an ex?

Our heroine today believes that friendship between former lovers is a real utopia. We share her story and look forward to your comments on this!

Friendship with an ex I'm a terrible ex, and that suits me. I have never understood people who, after breaking a love affair, are eager to establish friendships. To me, all these Saturday nights over a cup of coffee and talking about current partners with an ex-love is a separate kind of masochism.



I never wanted to follow the life of an ex on social networks or have heartfelt conversations on the phone about what plans he has for the future with his new passion. I have never been drawn to re-read correspondence with someone who, after a thousand messages with the text “I love you”, simply took and refused these words.



When I leave a man, I prefer to burn all bridges. Delete photos, get rid of gifts, even interrupt contacts with mutual acquaintances, unless they are my close friends.



Basically, I do everything that hot-tempered girls from teenage TV shows do. And strangely enough, it helps me.

Radical breakup I've been thinking a lot about why I react so acutely to a breakup. And I came to the conclusion that all the fault of my excessive focus on my partner. That is, I always try to save the relationship to the last, even if the other person no longer needs it. I try to get to the bottom of the problem, to establish a dialogue, to understand feelings and so on. And it's all very exhausting.



So at the end of the day, my hands drop and I don’t want to put in the slightest effort. So when a relationship ends, I just let the person go. I spent too much internal resources on it.



Sometimes I think that I would like to change my behavior one day. Perhaps it would be worth trying a little less to connect with a partner who is not interested in this, and then breaking up with him would not seem so tragic to me? Perhaps one day I will be able to remain a friend to someone with whom we were connected before the breakup? Who knows...

In the meantime, I will follow a tried-and-true plan – to eat up the sadness of the breakup with my favorite sweets in front of the TV and to restore my inner strength to one day enter into a more harmonious and mature relationship.



Have you ever been in a relationship with your ex? Why do you think people try to keep a friendship with someone they can’t build a relationship with?

Feel free to share your thoughts on this in the comments!