What to Say to a Toxic Friend When You See His Lies

The older you get, the better you begin to understand the people around you. Read them, analyze behavior, manner of speech and other features. It is not surprising that even the lies of a person with whom you have been communicating for a long time are sometimes so obvious that it is difficult to believe. But why do close friends or relatives lie and, most importantly, what to do about it? Today's edition. "Site" He invites us to speculate on the subject.



The legendary Vladimir Vysotsky has a deep song about a friend. “If a friend is suddenly not a friend or an enemy, then so be it. If you don't know if he's good or bad. Pull a guy in the mountains, take risks, don't leave him alone. Let him be in one with you, there you will understand who he is, sang the famous bard.

It is said that a friend is known in trouble. It is true that he is often known in joy. Of course, it is unlikely that someone will specifically conduct any checks to understand how pure the intentions of a friend or girlfriend are. However, often life itself creates such situations in which the true gut of a person manifests itself. What do you do when you realize that you are being lied to in the face?



The reaction to this can be different, and this is completely normal. We asked our readers what they would do in that case. The answers are very different, but each has a right to exist. I wonder which option is closer to you?

“I would say that I know the truth, and would ask why he lies,” says the wise Olga. And really, why not just take the bull by the horns and solve the brewing conflict on the spot? Everyone knows that one lie will be followed by another. If you do not stop the problem in its inception, you can still mess with its consequences.



Of course, it's very individual. However, if you see that someone close to you is forced to lie, it is important to understand what caused this behavior. Especially if there were no such cases before.

Some people will say that lies are different. For example, a lie for salvation or for good. If you are faced with such a lie, you also need to deal with it. Sometimes people have no choice but to lie. Or he's trying to save you from something. In this case, your friend deserves your forgiveness. However, again, we advise you to dot the "i" as soon as possible.



Many readers said they would remain silent, but would draw conclusions. Someone even remembered the words of the Bible: “He who once lied, who will believe you?” Drawing conclusions is useful and important. But it seems to us that it is impossible to understand the situation one hundred percent without explaining the person who lied.

We liked one comment on the subject: “There is a difference between lying and lying.” If a friend is just lying, I'll say I don't. If he cheats, I will part forever.” But indeed, in its semantic load, deception seems to be something more serious than lying. What do you think?



A lot of people said they would send a friend away. Quite a harsh decision, but here again a lot depends on the temperament. If a person is not willing to tolerate the lies of a close friend, he has the right to break off relations with him. It’s much worse when people endure this behavior for years and do nothing about it. Maybe someone just likes to live in deception.

The realization that a loved one lied to you is unpleasant and destructive. You trusted him, and you told him about your secret. Overly emotional people in such cases are usually much harder. They are filled with anger and frustration.

But it seems to us that even in the most critical situation we need to think coldly and rationally. Ask yourself, “Why would a friend lie?” What if he got into trouble? What made him do this and not that? It is not always worth making advance conclusions without talking to a person for clarity. Perhaps this heart-to-heart conversation will help you figure it out.



Have you ever been fooled by a friend? It would be great if you shared your opinion on this topic in the comments. Wait for you downstairs!