My sister got married and went to live in Italy, we never dreamed of it.

“My married sister has been living in Italy for several years. She moved there immediately after the wedding. There she and her husband have a small house, a car. Every year they spend their whole family vacationing on the sea and even traveling by car. And my fate was different, says Lilya.



Married sister Olya married a guy with whom she studied in the same year at university. They moved to Italy at the first opportunity. She and I never dreamed of ever moving abroad. Our parents are poor people. Dad is a teacher and mom is a nurse. Olya studied well at school and was able to enter the capital university. That's where she met Vova. For several years they lived together in a rented apartment, worked and studied. Vova has Italian roots, his grandmother is a native Italian, so they went to her. Over time, they settled in a new place.



After college, I started working, met my love, got married. Sasha and I are still renting an apartment and we have a young son. I do not see any prospects and I do not know what to do next, in which direction to move. The child grows, and income and housing do not increase in size. What can we do?

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I envy my sister. She's got the money, all beautiful and well-groomed, in her car. We're barely making ends meet. If she hadn't moved to Italy, maybe I wouldn't have thought about anything, would have accepted that life. But recently, my sister came to visit us, to show my daughter, to talk.”



Olya has long issued all the necessary documents for citizenship in Italy. She wants to take us home, too. We have nothing to do here, and our whole life is ahead of us. Our parents are against it, they are not at the age to change something in their lives, they are comfortable. It is boring here, there is nowhere to go, there is nothing to relax.



That's Olya and says, they say, get ready, make up and come to us. She was very lucky with her father-in-law. They always try to help as much as they can. He says that it will not be easy at first, you need to learn the language, get used to it, find a job. I know that Olya only wishes me well and wants everything to improve in our family. I'd love to pack my suitcase that same day, but my husband doesn't share my optimism.



He thinks his parents are right. By the way, the father-in-law is already retired, and still go to work because you have to live on something. I don't want that future. If nothing changes, we will be in their place in 30 years. As soon as I talk about Olin's proposal, Sasha immediately begins to argue. He is a patriot, saying that it is better to live poor, but on his own land. A proud and stubborn man. He doesn't understand me. I’m not just trying for myself, I want a better life for my son. It is impossible to convince Sasha.”



There is always a choice from the editorial board. If Lily has support in the form of a loving sister, if she wants to go abroad, she can always go with a child without a husband. At first, for a while, it happens that not everyone can adapt abroad, and after a few years they come home. But it's worth a try. At least for the experience. Maybe Lily's husband will agree to go on vacation with his sister. Do you think Lilya can find a compromise?