Do I have to chase my wife’s friend into three necks?

There are people who do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman. And others prove by their own example that the friendship of a man and a woman exists. Who's right? Both. Often do not believe in heterosexual friendship jealous husbands or wives who have never been friends with a person of the opposite sex. There’s nothing strange about being anxious when your loved one spends time with their friend. While the husband does not find a place for himself from excitement, the wife may sincerely believe that there is nothing shameful in friendship with another man. And sometimes that happens. So why do most people not believe in friendship between a man and a woman?



Since childhood, parents teach girls to be friends with girls, boys with boys. Everything is clear at once: among boys one should look only for suitors, there can be no friendship. The stereotype laid down since childhood makes you think that if you are interesting to a man, then he is looking for a relationship.



And yet some manage to go beyond stereotypical thinking. It happens that friends of different sexes are friends for years until they have families. When they start building family life and try to keep in touch, it doesn't benefit their families.



A man can tell you how to behave in a relationship with a husband if a woman needs advice. Still, he looks at the situation from a different angle, can express his opinion and help solve the problem adequately.



The trouble is that the more often we communicate with someone, the more this person causes us to feel sympathy. It's called the intimacy principle. First people get used to each other, then there is sympathy, and unnoticed to themselves they begin to flirt with each other, so friendship turns into romance.



The more friends communicate, the less attention they pay to their loved ones. Husband and wife are separated from each other. No one but your best friend will understand or support you. After a quarrel with her husband, a woman seeks solace from her friend. She pays attention to a friend, not her husband.



On the other hand, if people in marriage trust each other, there are no secrets between them. They share their experiences, support in difficult times and are not jealous of friends. Because in a happy loving family there is no place for jealousy, mistrust and secrets.



Our editorial board believes that friends have no gender. A friend is not a gender, but a person. If a man knows how to be friends, he knows that when he has a wife and children in his life, they are more important than his best friends. In turn, good friends also understand this perfectly and do not take offense if they begin to spend less time. What do you think about that?