Why the word "stepmother" became a household name Bashny.Net

People converge and disperse. It is rare for a couple to get married and live together all their lives. This picture is only shown in films. In reality, adults have their own ambitions and habits, and not everyone manages to cope with the behavior of a spouse in everyday life. When it comes to divorce, the wife and husband decide that the child will stay with the mother, and the father will see him from time to time, support him financially. Only a big disappointment becomes for a man with a trailer to find a mate. The relationship with the child of the husband from the first marriage of the new wife often does not add up. Should we?



For some reason, men can openly declare that other people’s children irritate them, become a burden, and in general, why do they need such responsibility? And when it comes to the stepmother, it is assumed that she will by default love the child of her lover, because she is a woman. This is a very unhealthy attitude towards your spouse.



A woman has to hide her dislike for a child because people will not understand. And in fact, every adequate person understands that the stepmother does not owe anyone anything. If she wanted to raise children, she would have given birth to her husband. And then you have to share your spouse with your ex-wife and her child, and even give him time.



If the child is a minor, the father must pay alimony. Someone can afford it, and someone will count every penny. There is not enough money for your own life. A woman painfully perceives the husband’s spending on the former family. Instead of going to a restaurant with a loved one, she will have to eat pasta without dressing for dinner in a warm home environment. And all so that the husband could collect the child from the first marriage to school. And so on and so forth.



It happens that the child lives with the father. Probably one in ten women will sign up for this. The situation here is serious. Instead of going about their usual business, the wife has to take care of someone else’s child. Wash, feed, dress. Like a stepmother should not do this, and she will not receive the recognition of her husband. And the love of his child is even worse. The husband will take this maternal instinct for granted. A woman will have to hide resentment, anger and dislike for a child she never wanted. She will do everything in her case, and it is for the sake of the loved one. It will not benefit anyone, it is voluntary slavery.



Regardless of whether the child lives with her husband or with his mother, the husband will always devote time to the first family. There are also different children. It may happen that the children will not like the new passion of the Pope and will drag him to their side all the time. To put up with this state of affairs, even a person with nerves of steel will not.



With all this, the stepmother does not have the right to raise her child, she can not scold or force to do something. She's nobody to him. Why should a child be treated differently? That is why women do not want to build relationships with men who have children. If you have to choose, the husband will always choose the child. Would you be able to live with a man and his child from your first marriage?