She promised to buy her son a car in honor of the wedding, but spent the money on the celebration of the anniversary

The wedding is festival Love and the union of two hearts. And it does not matter how to celebrate it: lavishly and widely or modestly, in the circle of the dearest and closest, the main thing is that from the heart and young love each other. However, the parents of the bride and groom often want their children to have a fancy wedding. They want it to be remembered by everyone, and so that guests appreciate the scale!

However, then for the noisy festivities and big promises thrown at the wedding, you have to pay. Someone then pulls another six months loan, which was taken on the wedding, and someone pays a good relationship with loved ones. Everything happens...

Svetlana, a friend of my mother, told me a story that makes me think. It is difficult to determine who is right and who is guilty. And yet...



When my only son announced his marriage and preparations for the wedding, the matchmakers insisted on a chic festival. The wedding was huge! – began the story of the Light.

And Nikita’s father, Vasily, with whom Sveta divorced for 12 years, offered to buy his son an apartment in the center. Well, Sveta said that she will try to save the children money for a car for a year. Young people will report a little and choose what they want.

And then the birth day was coming. 50 years is such a date! With a sweep to mark the name day, to invite everyone: and relatives, and friends, and colleagues from work, was Svetyn. dream. Sveta remembered that she promised her son money for a car, but decided to spend $ 1,000 for the celebration, and give all the money that she was given to her son.



Then the name day came. That's just the son and daughter-in-law Masha, seeing a lush festivities in the restaurant, immediately and bewildered, sat in the corner all evening with sour faces. I did not expect to see such a celebration of my mother’s name day.

“As a result, little money was given. It's only $350. The morning after the Light Birthday, her son called her and began teaching for a party in a restaurant. Like, you're doing your birthday, Mommy. And I hear how the daughter-in-law whispers something in his ear! – continued the story of the Light. “I tell him right away that the money they gave me on my name day will be given to him.” He quickly put the phone down after that.”



The 50th anniversary of the Light has recently turned. She really wanted to celebrate it well. When will I be able to celebrate my birthday with friends and family? “Live alone, youth disappears. I want something good and warms my soul. And so was the celebration, as dreamed. Except for one thing, my only beloved son clearly didn't appreciate my mom's desire to celebrate. After the phone call the day after the name day, it became sad and painful and it felt like I was to blame.

I get the point. Mashka, his wife, desperately needed his car. As if it was my fault that I spent so much money on myself instead of giving it to them. Although this is my hard-earned money for the year, which I saved from my salary, largely denying myself at the same time.

Svetlana divorced her husband a long time ago, who, in turn, remarried to a woman with a child. But her husband’s son was alone, Nikitka, so the father generously offered an apartment for young people, and even in the city center, in a new house.



And Svetlana invested in the celebration of the young with a very small amount, but she took over all the organizational work. Everywhere I ran, negotiated, decided, ordered. The matchmakers paid the lion's share of the celebration. The light was uncomfortable and she told her son and then even the future bride that she would collect money for the car. But in a humorous tone, she said she hoped she could help the children.

When the time came for the anniversary, Sveta decided for a long time whether to make a name day or not. She managed to raise $1,000 on her own. She invested $500 in one business and made another $500 profit. Lucky!



Children did not say anything about the car for a long time, somehow indifferently passed by this topic. So Sveta decided: “50 years – once in a lifetime it happens.” Who knows if you will ever be able to arrange such a holiday for your beloved. And I did. The gift money was given to my son.

She invited 30 people to the restaurant! Even relatives from Siberia came. It's so beautiful! Invitations to everyone were handwritten.

The son thought that Sveta would invite her sister with two close friends and him and his wife. When I saw a whole table of guests, I was stunned. “Where did you find so much money to celebrate, Mommy?” And that's with your little salary. Is there a new man? ?



“No, you just have to be able to save!” replied Sveta.

The son passed these words to his daughter-in-law, and she twisted him. They sat all day as if the lemon was full.

The money was given to Light. But the gifts are good: a hair dryer, a toaster and a German food processor, which kneads dough, and even cuts vegetables on olive. Long-time Sveta dream! Although not in gifts, but that to sit with loved ones managed mentally, well. With songs at the table and dancing. I will remember this celebration for the rest of my life!



“When my son called, he started by asking how I could squander that kind of money for a restaurant party. Then he began to complain that he did not collect money for the car, and he did not want to take a loan. And that I put all the money in the pipe, and I promised them at the wedding to raise money for the car.

And what did I hide, that I had money, and I didn't tell anyone not to yell at them. She did everything for herself, but did not help her son. And I hear that he does not speak in his own words, as if his daughter-in-law Masha whispers this to him. And it hurt me. At least cry. Offered him the $350 they gave me, and he hung up on me.

My son and I are cold now. The daughter-in-law has never called since. They don't come to visit me. And if in a conversation with my son we touch on the subject of the car, then I immediately hear a flurry of accusations against myself. Matchmakers also resent me, my daughter-in-law set up.



And what is doubly hurtful, they did not really need the car before, they collected money for it sluggishly, reluctantly. And as soon as I played the anniversary, they immediately needed the car.

What do I do now, I don't know? I'm already thinking, maybe I did something wrong, selfish, and now I'm just looking for an excuse. The feeling of guilt is so overwhelming to me.”

To those who are relevant to the wedding theme, I suggest you find out what a village wedding is better than a boring celebration in a restaurant. You need to see it with your own eyes at least once!





I was very impressed by this story of Aunt Light. I don't think it's her fault. Birthdays should be celebrated as you like. And the children are adults, they have to earn their own car, if they need it so much.

But this is my personal opinion, and do you think that Light is to blame for what happened or not? I will be glad if you can suggest a decision on how Aunt Light will proceed in this situation, and I will tell her. Thank you, dear reader, for staying with us. Have a good day, let yours. relationship They will be warm and understanding!