Why in the family should be governed not by screams, but by female wisdom

Many women dream of getting married as soon as possible. However, not everyone manages to build a harmonious and happy relationship with their spouse. This inevitably leads to quarrels and disagreements, and sometimes even to divorce. But how to be without a husbandWho would you like to live with for the rest of your life?



Getting married is one thing. Getting in touch with your ex-husband - totally different. Unfortunately, the heroine of today’s history failed to do so. Why this happened and what it led to, read further in the article.

My marriage cracked when my second daughter was born. The first at that time was 5 years old, and I was literally sewn up in household chores and raising children. While my husband was working, I did all the housework myself. There was no one to help with the baby: my mother-in-law lives in another city, and my parents are no longer there.



Against the background of constant fatigue, I began to argue often with my husband. I had to let off steam, and I frankly broke down on Cola. Of course he didn't like it. I knew I was going too far, but I couldn’t help it.

“Olechka, I love you very much. But he’ll leave you if it doesn’t stop, my mother-in-law warned me on the phone. I was sure that would not happen, because we have two beautiful daughters. How could a husband be without them? How wrong I was...

Life after the divorce Kohl offered to divorce calmly and peacefully. He didn’t like conflicts at all. We did not share the property: I and my daughters stayed in our apartment, and my husband moved to a rented room. He continued to communicate with our children. He came every weekend, gave them gifts, paid alimony on time.



Life without a husband was not easy for me. I missed him and tried my best to get him back. But Kolya never stayed for dinner together. Then another woman appeared in his life. And he came in much less often. Except on holidays, to visit our daughters and bring some hotels.

I knew the root of evil was his new passion. She probably didn’t like that Kolya had to go somewhere and not be with her. One day, I decided to call this cheeky girl to tell her everything I think about her. But her response shocked me: 'He just doesn't have time, he's always at work. You see, we took out a loan and now we pay it off.”



It's just outrageous! That is, he has time for himself, and to come to visit his daughters and remind them that he is their father, he has no time! I decided to go to work with my husband with the children: let him get out now.

Kolya was not happy when he saw us. The daughters began to cheerfully shout: “Daddy, Daddy!” I just have a lump in my throat. "Why did you come? You know I can't leave now. See for yourself: a client is waiting for me! – outraged the ex-husband. Here is a long-awaited meeting with your beloved daughters.



I don't know what to do! I'm sure this swingtail will leave Kolya just like her first husband. She's awfully jealous. I can see how my daughters don’t have much contact with my dad. But my ex-husband doesn’t seem to care. And what about in a situation like this?

Apparently, the main character has a rather cocky character. The expression “What we have, we do not keep, when we lose, we cry” perfectly describes this woman. If she had thought about the future of her children and tried to improve relations with her husband, he would not have left her. But who wants to endure constant complaints?



At this stage, it is best to hold your horses and enter the position of your ex-husband. It is worth talking to him and determine some one day a week when a man can see his daughters. I'm sure he misses them too. But we all know that life makes adjustments. Fighting and making scenes is the worst thing a woman can do in this situation.

Write in the comments, what would you advise the heroine of the story and do you think her behavior is normal? We'll be interested to hear your point of view on this. Wait downstairs!