Is it possible to own someone else’s house, where you were just allowed to live? Bashny.Net

Often disagreements between close people happen because of real trifles. And if we are talking about the relationship of the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law, then there is traditionally enough one spark to burn a fire. And worst of all, these two women are under the same roof. Often, even in cleaning, they cannot agree. And what for one? beautifulThe other is useless junk.

But maybe there's another problem? That we don't listen to the other person's opinion, that we don't try to understand them? It’s easy to blame someone for not understanding or being behind in life. But are we not making the mistake ourselves?



For two weeks went with her husband to the country, and the daughter-in-law and son left in the apartment. In their house, they finally started repairs, hired workers, and they moved to live with us, says retired Galina Stepanovna.



“But when we got home and went into the apartment, I knew immediately that something was wrong. It's empty everywhere you look. And the daughter-in-law smiles at the top of her mouth and shines like a copper penny. He asks if I don’t notice anything.”

I threw away all your junk, which has been accumulating and collecting dust for years. You got 30 packets, you know? But now there is cleanliness and order, even breathe freely, said the daughter-in-law. And I almost burst into tears, says the elderly woman.



“The carved plates and old dishes, old pots and all kinds of jars, bags of tea and even a beautiful chandelier, albeit with a cracked plafond, all disappeared. There's no hot-device pan. Yes, she has holes, but her son gave her a gift from his first salary.

Disappeared and filing magazines “Health” who knows for what year... Lena even climbed into the mezzanine and threw everything away. Even schoolbooks and children's toys.”



“I could not calm down. My husband comforted me by thinking philosophically. Maybe it’s better that there’s so much space. But it's rubbish for my daughter-in-law, and valuable things for me. My mom and I bought them before the wedding. Yes, they are old, but dear to the heart, the mother-in-law resents.



I Galina Stepanovna has long offered to do a general cleaning. I told you to throw away all this garbage, bags of old rags, some bottles and boxes, collapsed stools, wallpaper rolls, rubbed towels and cracked dishes. We gave her so many new gifts! Just take it and use it, Elena defends.

And we start cleaning, so I put things in a bag, and she takes them out and places them again, they say, more will come in handy. This time everything turned out well - they sent their mother-in-law to the dacha, and they took up cleaning with their husband. For a week, the back was not stretched to clean, wash and wash everything. And in return, no thanks, sighs the daughter-in-law.



Who's right? Let everyone answer this question for themselves. But how often do we provoke conflict with loved ones, when we impose our values, but refuse to understand the desires of others.

And perhaps, for an elderly mother-in-law, yellowed magazines collected for more than one year, and a burnt chop, many years ago, presented by her son, much more valuable than radiant, but empty mezzanine.