The reason for the “old whine” to marry a neighbor after thirty years of marriage

Life is always unpredictable. You can be one hundred percent stable, but at one point everything will collapse and everything that has been valuable for many years will suddenly appear to you from a completely different side. What to do if this happens and whether to afford to start clean-slate?

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Editorial "Site" With interest I got acquainted with a letter that was left on the Internet by one fifty-five-year-old man. It is not addressed to anyone in particular and is more like the cry of a languishing soul. It is clear that the decision has already been made, but social fetters still deter decisive action.



Life from a clean slate We have not too interpreted and submit the letter as it is. We are interested in your opinion, because ours, as is usual in such cases, are divided. Some took the side of the main character, others do not categorically share his views. That letter.

At the age of 55, I suddenly realized that my wife, with whom we lived together for three decades, had become a completely stranger to me. It all started after our children grew up and began to live independently: the son went to conquer another country, and the daughter married a wealthy guy and now also on her own.



I must have felt this emptiness right after her wedding. My wife and I had a nice dowry for her, but it was exhausting. And after she went to the houseWe were alone. I can't help but think that our path was no longer common at this time.

After we fulfilled our life plan, our communication began to fade every day. To the point where we just lived in our own room and cooked for ourselves at the right time. We went by inertia to work, I continued to travel on business trips. To influence the situation, they decided to buy a small house in the village.



Why I'm running to the dacha My wife is completely lady - born and raised in the city. She took the dacha as entertainment. After I found a nice house, she came there as a queen, and while I was fiddling with the garden and the trees, she would sunbathe and watch her favorite TV shows. Nothing else seemed to bother her. It’s been almost two months and it’s time to come back. And then I realized I didn't want to.

The house in the village somehow gave me strength, I did not want to go back to the stuffy city and our empty apartment. The thought of what was waiting for me there seemed unbearable. And I stayed in the country. I think my wife was happy with my decision. I noticed a long time ago that I was annoying her, and could have yelled at me.



We agreed that I would come home and she would come to my dacha. But I was the only one who actually went to town. As I thought, I did not want to stay in our apartment at all, and I ran to the dacha at the first convenient occasion. So I started visiting the city less and less. Probably once or twice a month. I'll bring vegetables, fruits, canning, overnight - and back.

I never thought that at this age I might have some sparks in relation to another woman. For thirty years I went hand in hand with my wife and thought nothing of it. But when our relationship cooled, I suddenly realized that my roommate, singleA woman who is ten years younger than me evokes those forgotten feelings in me.



At first, we avoided each other, and then she asked for something to help, I gave her something to drink, our communication began. I felt that I was interested in her. One day we talked late into the night, and it so happened that she stayed in my house until morning. This is how we live before anyone suspects us. I don’t want to go back to the city at all.

I want to divorce my wife, but I'm afraid of bad news. Especially my neighbor is sorry, she will immediately be branded, they say, ruined the family, interfered. There's no one to intercede but me. Can you tell me what to do? I am ready to give everything, but I will keep this house. I believe that the children will understand us, and my wife will be so glad that I will now go my own way.



We are definitely waiting for your comments! Maybe this man will see his letter here, what people say. He will know what awaits him if he decides to make his story public. As long as he speaks incognito, there is nothing to fear. Help the man? What if he does?

Life from scratch It's not always easy. We'll have to burn bridges. We sincerely believe that the best solution will be found. Check out this link to explain why you don’t always have to be the best wife. Thank you for staying with us!