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What to say to a son who asks to give him an apartment and move to the dacha
Children are always children for their parents, from 10 to 45. When children grow up, parents can not accept this, seeing in their child defenseless crumb. It is only when parents take care of their children that They cannot cope with difficult situations in adulthood.. In the end, they blame the parents. In this case, parents either become hostage to the whims of their children, or raise their treasure for life. Today we will tell the story of a woman who taught her son a lesson. A son without an apartment decided to marry a girl and rent a house. He didn’t like his adult life.
“I was against my youngest son getting married.” Not because I don't like his wife, but because he's too young. At 27, he had recently taken a job, but said with full confidence that he would be able to provide for the family. Because of his temperament, he never liked to wait. Yura signed with Alena six months ago, they immediately moved in and began to rent housing.
As it happens with everyone after living in a rented apartment, Yura realized that she and Alena spend more than half of their salary on this luxury. Then the newlyweds thought about what to save for their own property. It seems that they decided to save money for a down payment for a mortgage. That's good. Soon my son came to me with a serious conversation.
My beloved son came to ask me to move to the country. Then he and his wife will soon save up for a mortgage and live in my apartment for a while. “There’s water and a stove, what else do you need?” Mom, please think. When we save up for a mortgage, we will change back, I was, frankly, taken aback. It took a long time to think about the decision.”
I knew for sure that when my son settled in my apartment, he would relax. The mortgage money will no longer be collected. What if you could live in your mother’s apartment? I know my son, no one wants to get out of comfort. Stop solving adult problems, stop developing.
In addition, I categorically refuse to live in the country. I'm uncomfortable. I also work, and it is inconvenient to get to the city from the cottage. Why should I move to the country and sacrifice my own comfort, so that my son finally evicted me from his apartment?
The next day I said I was against the idea. In return, I offered financial assistance so that Yura and Alena would live in a rented apartment. My son was offended, they did not talk to me for a long time. And now our relationship is strained after that story. Only I believe I made the right decision.”
Love should not become indulgence to the whims of others at the expense of oneself. Especially when it comes to parents. Is it not enough that they invest all their love and resources to provide us with everything we need until the age of majority? Once children will take care of their parents, they need to prepare for this from childhood. Do you think parents should support their adult children?
“I was against my youngest son getting married.” Not because I don't like his wife, but because he's too young. At 27, he had recently taken a job, but said with full confidence that he would be able to provide for the family. Because of his temperament, he never liked to wait. Yura signed with Alena six months ago, they immediately moved in and began to rent housing.
As it happens with everyone after living in a rented apartment, Yura realized that she and Alena spend more than half of their salary on this luxury. Then the newlyweds thought about what to save for their own property. It seems that they decided to save money for a down payment for a mortgage. That's good. Soon my son came to me with a serious conversation.
My beloved son came to ask me to move to the country. Then he and his wife will soon save up for a mortgage and live in my apartment for a while. “There’s water and a stove, what else do you need?” Mom, please think. When we save up for a mortgage, we will change back, I was, frankly, taken aback. It took a long time to think about the decision.”
I knew for sure that when my son settled in my apartment, he would relax. The mortgage money will no longer be collected. What if you could live in your mother’s apartment? I know my son, no one wants to get out of comfort. Stop solving adult problems, stop developing.
In addition, I categorically refuse to live in the country. I'm uncomfortable. I also work, and it is inconvenient to get to the city from the cottage. Why should I move to the country and sacrifice my own comfort, so that my son finally evicted me from his apartment?
The next day I said I was against the idea. In return, I offered financial assistance so that Yura and Alena would live in a rented apartment. My son was offended, they did not talk to me for a long time. And now our relationship is strained after that story. Only I believe I made the right decision.”
Love should not become indulgence to the whims of others at the expense of oneself. Especially when it comes to parents. Is it not enough that they invest all their love and resources to provide us with everything we need until the age of majority? Once children will take care of their parents, they need to prepare for this from childhood. Do you think parents should support their adult children?
