Why I calmed down my talents after fifty and didn’t go to relatives with offers to help

Kindness and responsiveness are rare qualities of modern man. In a society of selfish people, no one wants to do good for free. Therefore, when we meet a selfless person, we are sincerely surprised by his good intentions. Only more often there are nice people sitting around the neck and hanging legs. This was told by a smart man who decided not to do some things anymore. A good person’s thoughts on this matter are very simple. Why do good when you are not just not thanked, and sometimes scolded that you have done little for them.



Wisdom comes with age, and with him we realize that health must be taken care of. Everything else is secondary. One of our readers admitted that there are things he stopped doing after he was 55. He patiently explained his point of view.



Friendship is friendship, but even the closest friends sometimes fail. I had a friend who was walking on the side. Sometimes I covered for him, but warned him that his actions could have serious consequences. In the end, his wife found out about everything, and I was extreme. They dispersed, and I, like a guilty man, helped transport things. Some time later, the friends reconciled and moved back together again. Again, it's my fault that I helped move things. If they had not helped, they would have reconciled earlier.



It’s a pity when a person votes on the road, especially in bad weather. Why not give me a ride? I did a good job and paid for it with my wallet. After this incident, I no longer let strangers down.”



It seems that it does not cost anything to take a day off on another day and help a friend at work. Only I respect myself and my work. If I’ve worked a full week, I deserve to rest on my day off. In general, after 50, the schedule is very important for me, it helps to focus on your goals and achieve them. If everything does not go according to schedule, the work and rest regime is lost, and this severely affects health.”



I used to gladly help friends move, dragging heavy cabinets, tables and sofas. Now I am in good physical shape just because I know the measure. Even if I get paid for it, I'm likely to say no, because I have only one spine and I also want it to support me a bit.



To give advice is to take greater responsibility for the actions of a person. As a rule, people hear the advice, but do not consider it and do everything in their own way. So even if I see someone wrong, I don’t correct them. And now there are no complaints or questions about me, because people see that it is useless to ask me anything.”



You could say I reached Zen at 55. I have no problems, I communicate with people calmly, and they do not try to put their problems on me, if only because it is useless. You can be kind and do good deeds at the behest of your heart, without expecting gratitude in return. But what exactly should not be done is everywhere to get involved with your useful advice and try to help everyone around you. We must begin with ourselves, gentlemen.”



These are the thoughts of a good person that make you think. Unfortunately, an ungrateful society makes a person callous. Otherwise, in trying to make others happy, you will become unhappy. To stay calm and balanced, you need to ask yourself if people are taking advantage of your kindness. What do you say?