10 Behavioral Mistakes That Don’t Make Anyone Consider

Have you noticed that good people are often disrespected? They help, and help, and endure, and do not hold evil, but for some reason often remain offended and lonely.

Psychologists believe that the reason for this is behavioral errors. Website I illustrated them for you.

Unnecessary sacrifice



You are cutting your needs to please the world. And the world just doesn't notice it.
And when you get hurt, you feel bad for the offender. With this approach, you will be offended again and again.

• Don’t be afraid to tell the world about your discomfort. It may not cost him anything to meet you. No one will appreciate your unnecessary sacrifice.

Lack of self-esteem



You can’t feel when you’re being attacked. Or turn a blind eye to these little inconveniences. But a rude person will definitely not love and respect you for this. So. For what?

• If someone acts like they don’t care about you, it means they don’t care about you. AndDon't make excuses for being rude. Respect yourself.

Dependence on the assessment of others



People who pathologically need evaluation and approval subconsciously experience and broadcast a sense that something is wrong with them. AndPeople with whom something is wrong, usually nobody likes.

• Stop waiting for praise. You don’t have to say you’re a good person to be one. And don't be afraid of criticism. People will judge whether you do something or not. Therefore Your opinion of yourself should come first.

Finding a problem with yourself alone



You automatically assume that everyone is right, but not you. You take responsibility for what is happening around you. They won't thank you for that. But playing along and adding problems can be easy.

• Finding the guilty is ungrateful. And constant self-torture will not add to your love or pity of others. It is better to send forces to find a solution to the problem.

Self-praise



Listing your virtues, begging for respect, like alms, is basic error of dependent relationships. Convincing others that you are a good person only causes rejection. Even if you are a really good person.

• There is a way to show that you are worth something, it is worth something. For that. It is important to firmly believe it yourself.. When you know your worth, There is no need to prove anything to anyone.

Fear of refusing



You do not want to hurt anyone, even at the cost of your inconvenience. You pretend that everything is fine to protect others from worrying about what you are uncomfortable with. And as a consequence, You're often uncomfortable.

• Don't be afraid to say no. Even the nicest people will use you if you let them. Help only when you want and can help.

Deafness to self-interest



You used to. Adjust to the needs of others and cannot feel your own desires. You don’t decide for yourself, you take the wishes of others for your own. From the outside, it looks like inability to make decisions, helplessness, but not kindness.

• Learn to listen to your desires. And don't be afraid to hurt anyone. Your fears are probably false, andYou can always find a reasonable compromise.

Absence of permissible boundaries



You forgive because It is easier to forgive than to stand up for yourself. When you are disrespected, you mentally justify the offender.

• You. You need to have your own boundaries. And don't let people overstep them. Those who do not have boundaries are not respected, regardless of their merits.

Fear of loneliness



You make a cult out of a relationship. Sacrifice yourself, and this behavior is comfortable for you. You are drawn to tyrants, narcissists, and selfish people because you let yourself be used because that’s how you feel needed.

• You don’t have to choose between relationships and self-esteem. If there is such a choice, then something has gone wrong. Be brave, don’t be afraid of change. Think of loneliness as freedom and you won’t be alone for long.

Respect must be earned



You do not allow the idea that you can be respected for nothing. You feel uncomfortable in a relationship of equality because you have a strong belief that respect must be earned. You only feel worth something when you give.

• There is no need to buy love and respect. Learn to simply love and accept love. conditionless, like air.

Illustrator by Yekaterina Ragozina specifically Website


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