Youngest child: WHAT is IMPORTANT to know the parents Bashny.Net

The youngest child is the one who in the eyes of the entire large family never grows up. Always a kid, even if he was already forty. This has its advantages but also its disadvantages. It is clear that it acts differently on girls and boys. Someone rather fortunately, someone on the contrary.





 

Parents raising another child, it is usually savvy. They are not worry, do not make unnecessary movements. This, of course, a plus. He allowed more, with a less than demand, almost not expecting anything. In this sense, it is much easier than the older. But at the same time, younger boys usually don't have enough motivation to action. After all, no one is waiting. If they have the motivation within himself will not find, it is possible that life and pass mediocre than they themselves are unlikely to be satisfied.

Younger children have a number of strengths. For example, these are the best diplomats. They are able to find out almost any situation. How to create a problem where you need to create. They can become great lawyers due to its flexibility and ability to build relationships.

They are usually very gentle and affectionate. After all, their own tenderness and affection fed to satiety. The last time after all. Generally, in terms of love they receive from parents. The love of parents is already more relaxed, more selfless, more open. Often only the second-third child a mother begins to love truly. And splashes on younger all over all previous.

Younger optimistic, they usually have a good sense of humor. After all, without humor, in a large family to survive can only be a senior (yet drags on all the others he did not before). They are small suns, with them warm, cozy and mentally. They learned to be like suns because they waited.





But there is one problem. The sun is not always of their present state. This is often the mask they wear, and this is true, they do not know and do not understand. They had no such need of self-identification and soul-searching, as the average. They had such a number of expectations of parents as the older. Therefore, it is very difficult to understand who they really are and what you want.

Of course, much depends on the sex of the child and other children. If all children of the same sex, most often it is the latter fails. Failed again to have a baby need sex. So with all the love and tenderness of parents, he can feel their inferiority and don't even understand why.

If third attempt is failed and need was born a boy (or girl needed), we get a little Emperor in all its glory. It is, perhaps, even surpass the only one of its egocentrism and razmalevannuju. After all, he nothing waiting, still just happy that he finally got it!

The younger children learned that everything in this world take care of them. Not only mom and dad, but older, too – forced, but obliged. Of course, this slightly complicates their adult life – there's something we don't agree. Especially if beside you appeared the same object of attention, as well as yourself.

The youngest in the family never take seriously. He's cute and funny, but says nothing and decide nothing. It is strongly resent the child and adult. Any decision always try to challenge it, often do not ask his opinion. Often, this attitude gives rise to a minor nonconformity (especially in boys), they can become very uncomfortable in adolescence and beyond.

They are the same as average, want to compete with the seniors. But these seniors already at least two. If they are still the same sex – the General catastrophe. Him never run to the elders. Never win and never to get ahead. It remains only the cunning, manipulation and acting. So secretly provoked the older he got, and you in my hands took. It is convenient. And develops Junior rapid ingenuity. It can therefore be spent on a good cause, if such be needed.

In addition, if the senior something successful, younger often just not going to undertake it. For example, if a senior is good at drawing, it can resist the drawing itself. Even if you want, inside there is a conviction – I can't do that as well, then there is no need to try.

Younger children are very difficult to grow up. Not only because they do not know how and why. The family struggled resisted. Indeed, while the youngest is still a child, the parents feel younger. Younger children live longer in the parental home, they seldom get fired. Them longer can supply the money. This, of course, has a negative impact on their responsibility for their lives. They do with the word responsibility know little.

Younger hard to become parents. But not for the reason that we often find the older ones. Senior as it one day become "parents" to their younger brothers and sisters who have fallen on difficult times and are afraid of repeating this nightmare with responsibilities. The Junior very hard to care for someone else. They're accustomed to, that care goes in one direction – to himself.

Younger skillfully mastered the role of "fish-Remora". And so they are able to join groups and there's nothing to do. Or think that they donít do anything special, but it's not. Because they are very well able to create a mood. And you can create a mood to lead his team to victory. And then all together they will receive the laurels of the winner. And here not everything is clear, deserved or not, but this is not so important when the team won. And almost always those who are willing to do everything for them, for beautiful eyes. Some "senior".

The youngest child often in difficult situations may fall into a stupor and wait now for it someone will do it. Saves, correct. He is very offended by loved ones when this does not happen. But these are the crises experienced by them alone is able to temper his character and to force to grow up.

As it is not very well understood, it is difficult to set goals and achieve. Outside pressure on him there, and with such pressure usually begins the movement from other people. No pressure – no movement. The creation of an internal stimulus is a difficult task. And not all younger can successfully master it.

Hence the fact that they can't work alone. When not on whom to blame the defeat when there is someone who will support and protect, when the responsibility is all yours alone. It is very difficult to stand alone against the world. While the only cost a whole life and not know it.

Parents may enroll in the Junior sections and clubs, where important individual skills, where the child can better understand yourself, find yourself, create yourself a motivation. Very good martial arts. Any creative circles in which the teacher not only teaches the technique, and tries to reveal the inner world of the child.

Nothing to expect from the baby is great. And still Junior need to create a magic pendel. At least to start. They learned to move on with my life and not just drift. For girls, the scenario is more favorable than for boys. But even girls it is useful to understand yourself and your desires, to change and grow.

Delegate a lot of responsibility. Especially for himself. For his toys, his things, his relationship with the senior. When there are older children, the temptation to ask what their help is great. They will do better, faster, already know. But fight this temptation. Engage your little ones. Actively recruit. From the cradle. To using actions know the world and ourselves.

And love. Love all. The only senior, mid, Junior. If you are in contact with them and monitor what happens to them, you can always make adjustments. And don't forget to apologize if you did something wrong. Teach them what love is and forgiveness, and the ability to ask, regardless of position and status.published .

Author: Olga Valyaeva, Chapter from the book "destiny to be a mother"

P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©

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