The right to choose HOW to live, WHERE and with WHOM

Each of us has the freedom of choice. This is one of our basic rights in this world. We have the right to choose how you want to live, where and with whom.

The most difficult fold our relationship with those people, who have this freedom takes. Or trying to take away. Or tries to impose on us that we do not have this freedom and can not be.





Parents to a certain age quietly make decisions for children, and that's fine, until the child wants to take them himself. About this crises one year, two, three, seven and so on. The child wants to choose what he eat, what to wear, what to do, when to sleep, where to go and so on. The more the parents resist it, continuing to decide everything for yourself, the stronger the crisis the child.

Sometimes parents don't understand and continue with a teenager acting like a baby: put on your hat, be home at eight, Pasha not to make friends, do the lessons, do the dishes, first soup. Although once have passed through it and should remember those emotions.

Therefore, children are forced to fight back. Forced to argue, to behave aggressively. And that relationship cannot be saved.

Many of the experiences of adults who do not get along with your parents, though I want to establish something and fix it. Want – but can't. How you can repair what initially assembled wrong?

It is the responsibility of both parties. Including parents who do not understand that the child is grown and has the right to decide for himself how to live — because many parents are already visible and understandable, and the child they want to protect. Only here it is an illusion that parents do know what's best for the child.

The best thing we can teach children is to make a choice. Self. Realizing the possible consequences.

And they need to let go of this world and give them the opportunity to pass my lessons.





It is a problem and kids who can finally grow up and continue to let others take decisions.

To say "no" in the beginning, and not to bring to the limit.

To refuse to enter a chosen mother COLLEGE, then through five years, not to throw her diploma in the face.

Refuse to live with her mother in the beginning of family life, then not to blame her in your divorce.

To refuse to give her the full education of their child, so you do not blame her for what has been done wrong and that contact with them is lost.

To refuse to eat what you don't eat or like, but the fact that it still continues you to cook.

To refuse to wear something that doesn't suit you and don't like, although the mother you are so like more.

You have this right, you're a human being, a person, not my mother's property.

From weakness heart one can not let go and others fear to go away and grow up, not to hurt. And then both is difficult. The one and the other is painful.

And the Bible is written about, among other things. About how the loving Creator gave his children the right of choice and took it. And in this moment I think about how He has a big heart, and it hurts to look at us.

Take this freedom God has given you, nobody can. And even when you think that you do not choose, this is also your choice.





Your most important right from birth — making the choice and see where will take you your chosen road. To pay the bills, which you then "arrive in the mail", and to change their behavior if necessary.

 

Also interesting: Freedom of choice in the shores of certainty

Love the freedom of choice that is given to another person

 

And just from the look on your parents, children, friends, brothers, unable to change anything directly. We can only inspire by example, making their own choices consciously and in the right it direction.published

Author: Olga Valyaeva

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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