The ability to read others can be an effective tool in dealing with people. The counterintelligence agent of the FBI with 23 years of experience Chests qui (Quy Emory harsh) says: "You don't have to be a first-class detective to know what is happening in someone's head. The signals are always there. All you need to know where to find them".
What kind of signs can tell us what he thinks or feels? We in the Website
have gathered for you the 9 tips former agent of the Bureau who will help you to learn to see man through and through.
People have different quirks. For example, during the conversation they look at the floor, cross arms on chest, coughed, scratching your head or shaking your leg often.
They behave for different reasons. Identifying basic behaviors will help you understand when these actions — just a matter of habit
, and when the characteristic manifestations of deceit, anger or nervousness
Note the inconsistencies between the basic model of behavior that you have identified, and the words and gestures of the person.
For example, you notice that someone has a habit of repeatedly to clear my throat when he's nervous. Hidden whether this something more
than it seems at first glance?
One gesture or one word is not always fraught with hidden meanings. But when several gestures follow each other
, pay attention to it.
For example, someone constantly clears their throat, but scratches his head and shuffles his feet. In this case, you need to proceed with caution.
When you notice that someone acts a bit differently than usual, take in their observations on the step above. How he interacts with other people
in the room? The look on his face? How about his posture and body language?
Mirror neurons located in our brain, reflect the state of our mind. For example, activates the smile muscles, which are responsible for the joyful expression. And when we frown, we show their displeasure.
When you look at who we like, we give a signal to the muscles in our face relax. If someone's face does not reciprocate
, this person sends you a message: he loves you or not, or is not satisfied with something you did.
The strongest man is not always the one who sits at the head table. Confident person usually has a strong voice
(not to be confused with loud).
Often the group leader — a weak personality, which is largely independent of the others. Determine who in the group has the strongest voice, and your chances of success will quickly increase.
Often in movements of people who do not smooth. And if the person looks down, not in front of him, so he lacks confidence
If you notice these traits in the behavior of one of the members of your team, you can praise him to reinforce the confidence of the person. Or ask him direct questions to get out of him what he is afraid to speak.
Action words (usually verbs) give a complete view of how a person thinks
For example, if your boss says he "decided to work with brand X", the word action will be "decided". This one word indicates that, most likely, your boss: a) non-impulsive,) had weighed several options, and C) calculates all several steps ahead.
Each of us is a unique individual, but there are basic questions the answers to which will help you to read the man
, whoever he was:
- This person is an introvert or extrovert?
- Are human relationships the starting point in his actions?
- How people cope with risk and uncertainty?
- That feeds his ego?
- How people behave in stressful situations?
- What is his behavior when he is relaxed?
Remember, you need time to learn to read people accurately. And of course, there are exceptions to every rule. But adhering to these principles, you will improve your observation skills and increase the ability to understand people and communicate effectively
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