British psychotherapist about overeating

Seminars and books Gillian Riley has already helped thousands of people cope with the problem of overeating, greatly improve their health and increase self-esteem. Her methods are designed for those who are overweight and who jumps from one diet to another, but again and again breaks and overeat.

In his book "Eat less. Stop overeating" Riley says, as through a conscious attitude to food and self-esteem increase you can return to harmony and ease in relationship with food. It examines in detail the main causes of overeating, traps weight loss and give effective practical advice. In this post — excerpts from the book Gillian Riley about bans, genuine self-esteem, honesty, the impact of culture and abnormal standards.

The desire to lose weight

"When you only care about resetting kilograms, very difficult to maintain a good level of motivation, because no matter how well you eat, you will always have days when you get up on the wrong foot and you feel that you are fat, fat. Whether this perception is real or imagined, in any case, it can make your sense of success is very fleeting and shortlived. When you only care about resetting kilos, you will never reach your goal, partly because there are no limits (the English have a saying "you can never be too rich or too slim"), partly because you are afraid that you will not hold the result. It is a very fragile achievement. Most importantly, focus on the weight loss, allows you to ignore the harm done by overeating your physical and psychological health, your vitality and your self — image in ways not related to how you look."

About bans

"We all know that forbidden fruit is sweet, but, unfortunately, it is not the fruits be banned, when we limit ourselves, and the fat, salt, and processed and refined products. If you think about some food as forbidden, whenever you refrain, you will feel deprived, and this is very similar to the feeling that you're being punished. So for you to eat this food will be sweeter carrot, it will give you a sense of freedom and reward, at least until you chew it.

If we could think of greens as something prohibited, we would she seemed treat, because we always want what we can not, should not or we should not have. We do it because we need to know that we are free. The worst thing that can happen to a man is a violent deprivation of liberty, it is not surprising that we do not like restrictions and instinctively rebelling against them. This deep, instinctive force of attraction of the forbidden fruit adds strength to the desire to overeat.

The secret of success is the freedom of choice, however, completely allowing yourself the freedom of choice, remember the consequences of your choice, be aware of the full picture of what you actually choose. Some of your chosen meals will improve your health, while others make it worse. Instead think of food as "allowed" or "forbidden", think about the choices you make with the goal to benefit or to attack your health."

About genuine self-esteem

"True self-esteem comes to you from within, she is extremely private, very personal matter. This means that you improve at the same time as you learn to place less weight on the importance of other people's opinions about you. Make it so that your self-esteem was more important, and your weight is less important. The only way you will be able to put your opinion of yourself in front of other people's opinions on the same subject.

Your appearance and your size and shape of your body without a doubt will always be important for you, as well as my is important to me. I'm just talking about the perception of things in a particular perspective. The more you care about improving your own opinion of yourself, no matter how much you weigh, the more you will have contact with the motivation that the mountains will move."

About the influence of media

"Images of thin women looking at us from the pages of Newspapers and television screens, but these images do not control your behavior. Only you can control your behavior. The truth is that many women are able to achieve long-term change in the way they eat and the culture in their country has not changed. They have changed. Many people suffering from dependence on food or drugs are seeking to find something or someone that can be blamed for their difficulties, and it is easier to blame things far away from you and which are not under your control. Freedom and the truth is that you can control how you eat, in any culture, in any environment."

About honesty

"Be honest with yourself. If your friend lied to you, forced you to act, about which you later regretted or harm to your health, I doubt you would be greatly appreciated and respected your friend. When it comes to food, you can engage in such activities for a long time and in myriad ways. Often participants in my classes tell me that they regularly buy packs of chocolate "for the children" to completely eat them alone for a couple of days later. They're lying to themselves, and this is a blow to their self-esteem.

Even if you become a little more honest with yourself, your sense of personal integrity and purity will rise up to heaven, and the same thing will happen with your self-esteem. You just need to do what you believe in, to fulfill the promise, and tell yourself the truth.

When it comes to food, do not allow yourself even a "white lie" like, "Ah, just one bite, just this once". Your pathological addiction to food is supported by lies of all sorts and varieties. True — your key to freedom."

About abnormal norms

"Our culture encourages overeating. Food industry is mainly concerned about the advertising of the products, which usually means products that cause addiction, foods high in fat, sugar, flour and salt, and not health. "Health" is a good advertising tactic, but it is usually not worth "a truly healthy products."

Advertising and accessibility make junk food, which is produced by addiction, "normal", ordinary thing. As a result, many of us are at a loss regarding food, unable to appreciate the difference or do not care about the existence of a difference between a bag of tater tots and fresh Apple.

Just because a certain behavior is acceptable in our environment, does not mean that it is not addiction. In many countries it is normal to smoke, and so many people were Smoking that it would be strange if you didn't smoke. This does not mean that these smokers are not addicted, it just means that in this society dominated by a tolerant attitude to this form of addiction.

Among your loved ones can be considered normal to eat fried potatoes every day. Your family can be considered quite normal to finish each meal tea with jam or a piece of sweet cake. The fact that everyone at the table is doing, does not mean that it is not addiction."


"Many people want to lose weight mainly in order to earn the approval of other people. This is particularly true for women, because in our culture it is encouraged and podbadrivaya, but for many men this is the main motivation.

However, what most people consider a well-proportioned body is more acceptable than chubby fat accumulation on two legs. The problem here is that when improving your appearance is your main, and perhaps sole motivation to improve the style of your food, you will attach less importance deeply personal source of self-assessment: your own opinion about yourself, despite the opinions of others. And when talking about the control of psychological dependence, deeply personal sources of self-assessment to supply the person much stronger and more effective motivation than other people's opinions."


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