Fear of change— 6 ways to cope with them

 

      




If you want to change in the future — be this change in the present.© Mahatma Gandhi

Changes often take us by surprise. You need to remember that not always what seems bad and so is. For example,

dismissal may give you an opportunity to finally do what he likes. So learn to make changes in their own lives and fight for survival.

1. Don't do anything

After a large and serious changes in their life the very big mistake is to start to fuss, to create an activity for activity – not to sit idle. People just don't know how to appreciate the opportunity for quiet contemplation. In linguistics there is the concept of "period of silence": bring a child, for example, in Paris, and leave it there. A few months he will be silent like a fish, but then opens his mouth and speaks excellent French. So with the changes in life: allow yourself a little quiet before speaking in another language.

2. Take care of yourself

In the period of the shock of novelty is very important take care of yourself and allow others to do the same. Prepare yourself a delicious meal, let friends help you with cleaning, spend some money on entertainment.



3. Silence the inner voice

Inner voice, aka "nerdy", is now no part of it. Too smart people are hard to adjust, so at that time, when life turned on its head, IQ does not help you.

4. Expand your horizons

Practicing Zen Buddhists try to live like I know nothing and thus look at the world with fresh eyes. This is a good way to make changes is to look at them as an opportunity to start life anew, taking into consideration all the possibilities and options.

5. Treat well-known skeptical

Life in society sometimes deprives man of the right to individual knowledge. For example, a few years ago "everybody knew" that the best way to learn to be an economist or a lawyer. Some time passed, and now many graduates of the relevant faculties is very hard to find a job. Or, for example, "everyone knows" that after forty years is not worth trying to learn a foreign language, and after fifty it is impossible to learn anything about computers. Don't listen to anyone – go for it.

6. Often repeat "What?"

When you start to make lemonade from reaching you as a gift from life of lemon, in other words, when sudden changes in life you pay, other people might not like it – especially those who are secretly unhappy with their own lives. For these people, your attempt to move on like a bright spotlight, which should be immediately extinguished, because it shines right in the eyes. So all their dire predictions about what happen with you if you head dive into a new life, and answer: "What, really?". Alternatively, suitable "Yeah? Seriously?".

 

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