Female and male jealousy — what is the difference

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What is jealousy from the scientific point of view? We've all experienced bouts of jealousy at least several hundred times. Your friend in kindergarten who dumped you, when your enemy had a new toy? Why your guy so often says about your friend? Why is he watching this long-legged beauty at the bar?

Jealousy is a natural feeling. The bad thing is that sometimes she makes us do terrible things. When the fuse will pass and the dust settles, you will have to understand what you've done...

Unfortunately, manifestations of jealousy are rarely beautiful or at least safe. To avoid it, however, impossible. She will always be from you a short distance. And you have to admit that I don't know when will explode in the next moment.

A study of jealousy, newly engaged researchers, David Frederick and Melissa Fales. The work they published in Archives of Sexual Behavior.

Researchers interviewed 63 894 people. Asked them including that they would be more upset if they learned that their partner slept with someone else (but not falling in love with him), or if they knew that their partner loved another, but had not had sexual contact.

Here are a few insights from this study.

Men more upset about physical contact

Heterosexual men unimaginably more furious if his woman has sex with another man. Physically. There is already a majority (or more precisely 54%) do not care, there was love or not. Among women, those who hold the same point of view — is only 35%.

I wonder what gays and lesbians perceive the world differently. The such percent, respectively — 32% and 34%.

Women are afraid that men will love someone else

At women all differently. Cheating on an emotional level much more pissed off would be 65% of heterosexual women and 46% men.

Why is this so?

Blame evolution

Frederick and Thales believe that the fact that men and women have different biological tasks. Until then, until there were DNA tests, men have always been afraid that women will turn them around your finger, and they will raise other people's children. From the point of view of genetics it is a disaster for the male: does not waste resources on her child, and the carrier of the genes of another man.

That is why physical cheating leads men into a frenzy.

Women, on the other hand, is another problem. To raise offspring, she needs to bind to a man. To convince him to be engaged with the support and education of children. If the father of their joint child will begin to be attracted to another woman, this lowers the chances of survival of the child who will have no father.

By and large, women do almost all the same, man sleeping with someone on the side or not. The main thing — that he continued to take care of their children and did not spend resources on children from other women. It certainly sounds terrible, but remember that we are talking about evolution, i.e. the process, which were formed millions of years.

From an evolutionary point of view the best strategy for men to have sex with a women, but to spend money just for the members of his family. As you know, nature doesn't know the word "cynicism".

But you have to remember that jealousy is always bad. Apply a maximum of efforts to suppress her seizures. Irrational jealousy is often the cause of the most painful breaks in relationships.

 

Author: Konstantin Shiyan

Source: lifter.com.ua/post/576

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