10 ways to convince the interlocutor

Every once in my life talked with a very stubborn and difficult person. Everyone knows that the easiest way to resolve a dispute is to avoid it. However, sometimes the situation requires that you defended his point of view and convinced the thrust of the interlocutor in the right.

1. Be careful and polite
First of all, do not play with thin threads of pride of man: not worth it to offend, humiliate and to get personal, so you can not prove it and he goes into a defensive position of denying everything (antagonism). And persuade people in this state is almost impossible.

2. First, strong arguments
First say the strongest and most compelling arguments for your position. No need to start with small things, release from heavy artillery, and only then to reinforce her small infantry.

3. Earn the trust of the
Try to increase your status and image: to argue a point that you know to practice what you've been doing this for many years and have got concrete results or had earned a lot of money.

4. Show the trick
Powerful weapon is to say the following: “Yes, that's it, you're right, it's a good idea, but in this you're not human...” When a person feels that his thoughts are noticed, it can already listen to your own.

5. Flattery
Praising someone! Compliments, especially unexpected compliment will surprise and delight everyone, and this is exactly what you need to relax your opponent to reduce his control over the situation.

6. The sequence of consent
A rule of sequence: first, tell the person what he agree (even if it's completely obvious) and then your point of view. The probability of consent in this case is increased many times over.

7. Take away the conversation from dangerous topics
Avoid “acute angles” and those that may increase conflict, but also to those who are weak.
If something like this POPs up, immediately turn the conversation, say, “We're not about that, and ...”, “it is irrelevant to the case, the matter relates only to ...”.

8. Notice every little thing
Watch for non-verbal human behavior, it can show a lot. Non – verbal behavior-posture, gestures and facial expressions. If you notice that after some argument, the man jerked the eyes, immediately proceed to develop this argument further and in great detail – this is your strongest argument and the man understands this and is nervous.

9. People love benefits and profits
Reassure the person that what you say is very useful and even profitable for him, and his position on the contrary does not bring anything to him except just his position.”

10. Show unexpected care and respect
Listen carefully to your interlocutor, even if he annoys you: anyone notice that attentive to it, and it will especially notice the one who knows that despite the fact that you disagree with him, you are attentive to him. Thus, you will be able to stand out from the other people with whom he ever argued. published

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

 

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