About assholes: honestly, how is it? Bashny.Net

The word asshole is universal. It describes a very specific concept – a person with a certain and, surprisingly, well-known set of personal qualities, which is an absolutely exhaustive characteristic of their carrier.





An asshole is a male-only creature. This word has no form intended for women. "Mudila" is just a slightly softer synonym.

Origin: From Old Russian. muda - eggs (part of the body), asshole (aka ox) - castrated bull.

It is an asshole in relationships and attitudes.

The man is very charismatic and at the beginning of a relationship can look like “Macho”: cute, charming, intelligent, attentive, making a great impression, inspiring trust, enjoying success with women. Mudak’s magnetic appeal to members of the opposite sex seems almost supernatural.

What's the flaw? The flaw is in the soul. Or rather, it's lacking. The lack of soul is the lack of conscience and feelings. Of course, an asshole is very good at imitating feelings. But the only real feeling that drives him and makes him act out various dramas to make an impression is a kind of "predator hunger," a desire to get what he wants. The only question Mudak seems to be asking is, “Can this be used as food?”—that is, whether it is useful or beneficial. His whole life is subject to this style of behavior – the search for victims.

The character of the asshole is simple: he lies. And he lies with such ease that it is difficult to suspect him of this very lie. Building the logic of their reasoning in a very cunning way – not talking, thus suggesting that the interlocutor himself fill in the “white spots”. Clarity isn't about Asshole.





There is no sense of guilt in Mudak (as well as sympathy, empathy). Manipulating, he will always seek to impute this guilt to the victim. “You knew what you were going to do,” “You came to me yourself,” “You forced me to do it,” “What did you expect to do if you agreed to such a relationship?” are Mudak’s favorite phrases.

Manipulation is generally the main style of Mudak’s behavior. He can simulate false emotions to elicit empathy: “I’m so unhappy in marriage,” “I want children so much,” “Nobody understands me.” So the pity factor is one reason why victims often fall in love with these poor people.

Sometimes an asshole can easily say with a heavy sigh: “This is what I can do...” or “I learned to kill feelings in the bud because I don’t want any more pain,” or even “I am a terrible person.” Sounds like remorse? That’s exactly what it looks like – nothing more. There's no feeling behind that remorse. Repentance is the pain and regret of what has been done, and the pain of not being able to change what has already happened. Asshole - unable to feel pain emotionally.

The dick feels upset at not getting what he wants - and it's a pain for him.

And repentance is about responsibility, about admitting your guilt. And the Muddock would rather resort to prosecution than take responsibility. He is inclined to blame anyone (from the former to the present) for his bad mood and life's troubles. And he is extraordinarily able to bring down his accusations on loved ones - those who are most defenseless before him.





By the way, responsibility is the danger for Mudak, from which he prefers to quickly withdraw. When in a relationship he feels such a danger (a friend became pregnant, fell ill, God forbid, than serious, or insists on marriage) – the usual tactic is the breakup of relations and “You are to blame yourself.”

To be out of the relationship Mudak can not, so he always has a “backup option”. He also does not know how to deepen and develop relations - this requires sincerity, and "you want to eat what you want" - that's what he takes in quantity.

It's just an asshole. But nothing. If you have difficulties, he will say something like: “You can always count on me” or “If you need something, say it.” But if you really say or ask, most often he will have other plans, or he will be too tired, busy with urgent business or even “out of access”. And even if he fulfills your request, he will remember it.

What one can learn from Mudak is to pay undivided attention to the object of his interest and the pressure with which he acts in achieving his own goal. In this age of the Internet, things have become much easier for the Mudaks. It is much easier to imitate feelings on the Internet than in real life - a love emoji, a drawn bouquet, a song on the wall, liko stroking. It's all less energy-intensive for an asshole. Because his main need in relationships is not to give, but to take.

Assholes sometimes create families and have children. Yeah, and that happens. It is true that in such families neither sincerity, nor real closeness, nor unity of souls ever happens. And there are scandals, treason, jealousy, and at least a few crippled fates.

What does the asshole really get from his victim?

The answer may sound absurd to a normal person: An asshole enjoys making others suffer.

If I was lucky enough to get out of a relationship with Mudak, I think it’s worth knowing about his ability to come back. What's he coming back for? Yes, for the simple reason to check if you are still "hooked" by a victim who depends on the Muddock.

How do you live with an asshole?

Before you go to meet Mudak (emotional response), that is, before you decide to resume your relationship with Mudak, remember – why did you break up? How important to you now is what caused the breakup? Do you remember how it was last time?





You can argue and say that people change. People change, assholes don't.

The asshole does not see in himself or his behavior any psychological or emotional problem. He sees nothing wrong with his actions. He is quite happy with his inner state and way of thinking.

The asshole sees no reason to change!

33 times in the post mentioned the word "Asshole." Chur-chur-chur, save me life to run into Muddock again - I had one more than enough J.

And seriously, no one is immune from such a meeting.

And as a wish to all who read the post to the end:

One: Identify the asshole - turn on the instinct of self-preservation and run! To remain in a relationship (friendly, loving) is to destroy oneself. Fuckers don't change.

Two: Even if you have bad luck in life and run into an asshole, it does not mean that all men are like that. Men are pretty good, most of them are J.

Three: If, after all, it happens in life that “one is an asshole” and “two” and “three”, then, sorry, this is already a system. And here it is worth to deal with your own “templates” of behavior: what is in your behavior that you are these same assholes, like a magnet attract? Unless, of course, you enjoy the pain.





On the topic, you can read the book by Irina Melnichenko “Panopticum of assholes” – it is about psychological and emotional violence. The task of the book is to help women notice danger signals in time, recognize an asshole even before it becomes painfully painful, and it is easier for those who have already encountered these representatives of the male family to cope with their experiences and understand that they are not alone. Posted

And finally, a short film.

Author: Irina Stukaneva





P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!

Source: psy-practice.com/publications/prochee/o-mudakakh-/