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How to get rid of his own nothingness
The cornerstone of the Foundation of success is the overcoming of his own nothingness.
Nothing people call your sense of weakness arising from comparing ourselves with the image of someone more powerful. They compare themselves with those who have already achieved success in their background seem to be unable to come to the same level.
People tend to idealize someone else's success, believing that the other is everything is going smoothly, without a hitch, and only them, not all thank God.
How do these myths? Who sings small children, which remain insignificant and sometimes to old age?
From parents. "See how Kate's doing well. Don't you?" And the child automatically became worse Katie.
Parents need to understand that the success they expect from the child, comes from the word to keep up. So regardless of how fast the child masters the external world in accordance with their domestic.
The child should be given time to explain the events in his life and the reasons of their origin.
A wise parent this time gives. Immature parent drives the child to the speed of others.
Why is he doing it? Afraid of condemnation. He wants from others the recognition of the status of "Good parent". And is ready to drive of the child, which in the end, will receive the status "Bad parent" when the child is finally approved, became a nonentity and a loser.
If you are lucky with your parents and they give you time to digest the internal and external information, you won't feel like a schmuck.
But what about those who have immature parents? Then you have to change the self-image of the parent in his mind.
I already wrote that the image of the parent is changed only when his parents — grandparents — fill it with love, and he gives this love to us.
Insignificance is always copied from the parents ' model of behavior. That is, your pettiness is pettiness and weakness of the parent.
Change the image of a parent from critical to loving - a guarantee of liberation from self-flagellation and self-judgment that give rise to a sensation of nothingness.
One of the best therapeutic methods for the study of the image of the parent is transactional analysis by Eric Berne, and his model of personality Parent-Adult-Child.
According to this model the Child is fully formed Parent. Changing the image of the Parent we change the image of the Child, which provides our behavior.
Nothingness is the wounded child inside us, who suffer from the severity of our Parent.
Healing ranesti Child is completely dependent on the healing of the image of the Parent.
The good news in all this is that if you feel worthless — this means that your parent so feel you this is not to blame. Because he became so in childhood long before your birth under the influence of their parents.
Hence the conclusion: Change in mind images of grandparents and you will get healed of the Parent, which will automatically heal your insignificance.
Speed of life will become comfortable and you will feel your uniqueness, and therefore will allow myself to expand and Express their creativity.
Only the image of a critical parent forbids us to Express ourselves to the outside. Any successful person the way a parent resolves to do everything!
And when there are no restrictions, then comes success.published
©Mark Ifraimov
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
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Nothing people call your sense of weakness arising from comparing ourselves with the image of someone more powerful. They compare themselves with those who have already achieved success in their background seem to be unable to come to the same level.
People tend to idealize someone else's success, believing that the other is everything is going smoothly, without a hitch, and only them, not all thank God.
How do these myths? Who sings small children, which remain insignificant and sometimes to old age?
From parents. "See how Kate's doing well. Don't you?" And the child automatically became worse Katie.
Parents need to understand that the success they expect from the child, comes from the word to keep up. So regardless of how fast the child masters the external world in accordance with their domestic.
The child should be given time to explain the events in his life and the reasons of their origin.
A wise parent this time gives. Immature parent drives the child to the speed of others.
Why is he doing it? Afraid of condemnation. He wants from others the recognition of the status of "Good parent". And is ready to drive of the child, which in the end, will receive the status "Bad parent" when the child is finally approved, became a nonentity and a loser.
If you are lucky with your parents and they give you time to digest the internal and external information, you won't feel like a schmuck.
But what about those who have immature parents? Then you have to change the self-image of the parent in his mind.
I already wrote that the image of the parent is changed only when his parents — grandparents — fill it with love, and he gives this love to us.
Insignificance is always copied from the parents ' model of behavior. That is, your pettiness is pettiness and weakness of the parent.
Change the image of a parent from critical to loving - a guarantee of liberation from self-flagellation and self-judgment that give rise to a sensation of nothingness.
One of the best therapeutic methods for the study of the image of the parent is transactional analysis by Eric Berne, and his model of personality Parent-Adult-Child.
According to this model the Child is fully formed Parent. Changing the image of the Parent we change the image of the Child, which provides our behavior.
Nothingness is the wounded child inside us, who suffer from the severity of our Parent.
Healing ranesti Child is completely dependent on the healing of the image of the Parent.
The good news in all this is that if you feel worthless — this means that your parent so feel you this is not to blame. Because he became so in childhood long before your birth under the influence of their parents.
Hence the conclusion: Change in mind images of grandparents and you will get healed of the Parent, which will automatically heal your insignificance.
Speed of life will become comfortable and you will feel your uniqueness, and therefore will allow myself to expand and Express their creativity.
Only the image of a critical parent forbids us to Express ourselves to the outside. Any successful person the way a parent resolves to do everything!
And when there are no restrictions, then comes success.published
©Mark Ifraimov
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
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