Don’t say no to a child or how to negotiate with a three-year-old. Bashny.Net

This is such a sweet age when a child very often says “No!” and “I will not!”, defending his right to his own opinion and will. He can say no, even if he agrees or even wants to. But more than that, he wants to say no.

Here is a good reception "Substitution of concepts"





Imagine a kindergarten and a whole group of three-year-olds. You still need to take everyone out for a walk, sit everyone at the table and then put everyone in bed, too, despite their “no”.

- Nope! I'm not wearing shoes!

- All right, let's just let them jump on your feet! The boots run, the right overtakes the left and the OP! jumps on the leg!

- No, I'm not eating!

- Okay, let's not eat. Let's just sit at the table and see how the kids eat. Look, there's noodles swimming in the soup! Let's catch them. . .

We catch all the pasta in turn (naturally, we send it to the mouth) And then we catch potatoes... You can call lunch fishing - replace one concept with another - the main thing is to achieve the goal.

Nope! I won't sleep!

- All right, don't sleep. We won't sleep. We'll just lie on the bed and wait for Mom to come.

The child agrees, and after 5 minutes falls asleep, because he really wants to sleep. But he didn't sleep in kindergarten. He was so "waiting for his mom"

- Nope! I'm not undressing!

- Okay, don't get undressed. Don't. Lie down like this. Let's just get your tummy out. Your belly needs a break from rubber bands and buttons on your pants. Let the tummy rest, we take off our pants, and we will not undress.

- Nope! I'm not going out!

- Good. We're not going out tonight. We'll go find the treasure! Do you have a spatula? Get a shovel and let's go before another group digs up the treasure.

On the other hand, the children themselves do not want to hear “no” in their address. When the child hears “No”, he begins to protest and all subsequent arguments he does not hear.

Don't say no to the child. Say "Yes, but..."





Don’t make your children the meaning of your life.

Every child comes in their own time.



When a child hears “Yes,” it is easier to negotiate with them.

“Yes, I know you want to go out again, but it’s time to go back. Let's think about what we can do at home.

“Yes, I understand you want this toy, but I don’t have any money with me right now, let’s go get it another time.”

“Yes, I understand you want compote right now. But it's still very, very hot. Let's blow on him together.

“Yes, I understand that you want to jump and stomp, but under us lives an old grandmother, she can get a headache from the noise. Let's go outside with the ball and play table football. I bet I'll beat you;

It is important for the child that he was heard, understood and that he was accepted.published



Author: Anna Bykova



P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!

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