Once in a relationship will have to make a choice

We all somehow brought up on good stories of Cinderella and Snow White. Even as an order of magnitude above, we believe that our relations are certainly cherished end happy ending.

< However, the moment comes when the tale begins and ends with real life, full of compromises and limitations.

Limit - the word is not too pleasant, causes itching in some panic, and others. However, there is the positive moments. These are necessary, it is extremely important boundaries of personal space. < As we allow ourselves to break without permission. And they themselves suffer from it, becoming a voluntary victim of psychological violence.

According to psychologist Tamara Starr there are eight signs that our relationship "behind the curve»
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1. Behavior chicken We become like a troublesome hen, which strongly protects its numerous offspring. < «We go on tiptoe" in front of the favorite, if only not to upset him. However, we do not have playful offspring. The relationship is equally give and take care of both partners, overprotection is not needed.



2. Red light touch with friends and it's not the age, and not that we settled down and moved into the class of "family man." Just all my free time going on an infinite and not ashamed, senseless showdown with the favorite. Gradually begins isolation, conscious avoidance of friendly meetings. < We are losing confidence, since blame yourself for all conflicts arising.



3. Smooth rough edges desire to completely avoid the conflict is now more relevant than ever. By itself, the intention is not adequate and does not make sense. However, all is good in moderation. Tired of explanation of the relationship with your loved ones, we are beginning to avoid any appearance of confrontation. In other words, silent to save the world.



4. What is good? All the feelings and needs gradually fade into the background. Well if we, or badly need new shoes or want to gobble a burger - it all again. < First of all we think about the favorite.



5. Beware of the dog we directly or indirectly run the risk of being drawn out by the fact that so dearly loved. Extreme Sports, dangerous driving on mountain roads. Or, for example, smoking. < nervous, experience, we get angry, but, alas, do not say "no" because he did not like it at all, or will cause a bout of unrestrained fury.



6. Fatigue We constantly feel overwhelmed. This makes sense, because you need to each day to draw resources in order to live on and to please your favorite


7. Sex is not a joy When it is more convenient to agree to have sex, as long as there was an argument, it's time once again to think seriously about what we in general do. ideally come terrified by their own actions and make a difference to the better.



8. Turn the other cheek We are parting with her beloved. often on his own initiative. < split up, so that after a good cry, forgive and be together again. This is repeated again and again. We give a last chance to convince themselves that "favorite fix", believe promises that "here now begin to live like a fairy tale»

. There will not be a fairy tale. In these respects, we will never become Cinderella. Being there "voluntary sacrifice" rest of his life or to put an end - once in a relationship have to choose The choice that will leave all the bad behind and start all the same to build a fairy tale prince with the right
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Based on materials psychologies.ru
In the preview picture from the movie "No Strings Attached»

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