How to stop child tantrum Bashny.Net

If your child can go into hysterical weeping, as it seems, in any, the most unpredictable about, then no matter how good a parent you are, no good feelings during the regular tantrums experience you can not. You cover irritation, then anger, and - for the child and themselves. At the same time you often feel their powerlessness, and followed by extreme fatigue and discouragement. Add to this embarrassment for the behavior of his child, if you tantrum caught in public, multiply by the lost time, because in the period of hysteria not only your child, but you will not be able to do absolutely nothing.



And your baby also have hard times screaming. In addition, regular tantrums undermine the nervous system of the child, and may become a bad habit.

Well, stop hysterical - not such a difficult thing. < Website published an article on how to do it right.

1. Detached sposobEtot method is the easiest and the most difficult at the same time. He is, to fully withdraw from the hysteria of the child and not to react to such misconduct.

The ease of this method is that it does not rely on the action and inaction adult. You do not need to do anything. Continue (or start) go about their business. On the child's attention is not drawn and be absolutely imperturbable.

But in this lies the difficulty. Try to not respond to a tantrum if irritation and rises when the lips have approached the angry words, and if you want to stop this outrage is not just fast, but this second, even if it will need to slap a child well, or get him to the moon with the solar sky .

And yet, switch to the child cries for specific and simple things. Houses can tidy up a bit. On the street - to collect toys. If you are at home, get out of sight of children. Wait until the raging child will come to you on their own.

In this process, there is one subtlety. Hold anger not only the language but also gestures, facial expressions, movements. By your actions you should not be seen that you are irritated. Tantrum - not for your home. It accidentally wandered vredina that is not worth your attention. And when the baby finally come to you, do not bring up what is already over, are not accused of an attractive face blubbered.

Finish your time found a deal together. Well, then relax together!

2. Distracting sposobEtot method can be called the most popular. Its essence is simple. Child need to distract the sudden question, or some specific actions so that all his attention was turned to mourning on the interaction with an adult.

The question can be quite complex, requiring at least a moment's thought, and maybe vice versa, so simple, that the discouraged its obvious

• Complex issues:. "Oh, and that the boy was going to do on the swing? He did not skate "(you need at least to turn around and look at that boy!); "It is now the phone rang?" (Need to listen)
• Questions, the answer to that is obvious:. "Wow! And where you have a nose? "; "Wow! Do not you have shoes on their feet?. »
  . Have a child, for example: "You soiled pants, shake off soon"; "How do you hairs disheveled! Correct. " Of course, any question you need to ask is extremely concerned / surprised / confused tone, and to call for any action clearly and calmly, avoiding objections.
  
  3. Exciting sposobEtot method is perhaps the most complex and suited only to adults who are absolutely confident in my acting abilities.
  
  After returning from a walk, you leave a child screaming in the doorway, and make their own disassemble the bag. "Well it is necessary, as all here! Blank envelopes from somewhere ... and took some cards ... Yes, I do not need them. What do you do with them? And in the other pocket, too, something is ... We'll see. " Howling kid on the envelope and the real adult card is likely to bite.
  
  And if you answer the hysterics you, did not disappoint, say, "Oh, what whims came to us! Necessary medical treatment! And the best cure for kaprizok - cake "- and went to the kitchen to bake a cake with apples (of course, provided that you know the stove and the like), hysteria leave your home for at least the rest of the day
  
  4.. Severe sposobSrazu reservation: severe - does not mean cruel. "The harsh way to" fit only to those parents who know how to control his anger.
  
  The first course of action in this case - a willful decision adult, unequivocal and irrevocable, not depending on the child's behavior. That is, if it's time to go home (as you are, of course, the child was warned in advance, giving him time to finish the game), and the child is categorically refuses and arranges scandal, you're not going to back down, do not be nervous and do not try anything to impress' singing kiddie. But you do not swear, do not cry and do not spank a child. You just take him by the hand, and if need be, and in his arms and go home.
  
  There is a second option. He does not always stop a tantrum instantaneously but can make less frequent tantrums. It consists in the fact that the child was punished for unacceptable behavior. For example, after the scandal during his morning walk you deprive a child walks evening. Or if the child categorically refused to clean up after a toy and threw a tantrum about this, you take away the toys themselves, but for some time their child does not return.
  
  This method is suitable for children older than three years.
  
  5. Gentle ability, and this method is by far the most enjoyable. You just need a hug and feel sorry for the kid noisily.
  
  After all, you love him, right? So without words remind your child about it. You scream and cry, then you feel bad. And if you feel bad - I feel sorry for you. To feel your affection is very necessary and the kid and grown doshkolenku.
  
  And you such a hug to help calm down, extinguish incipient anger and not let to forget that your blubbered, angry, disheveled chadushko - the best in the world
  
  
  
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