8 children's injuries that prevent you from living. Get rid of them immediately! Bashny.Net

A man much more amenable to influence than it would like to admit. Every detail in the environment, any event in one way or another we have to leave their mark. In the first 7 years, is the most active phase of the formation of man and his personality, so many things have young children a huge impact, they form certain ideas about life, which in the future can be very difficult to change.

During this period, the most important people for a child are his parents. Toddlers often unconsciously read their patterns of behavior and attitude. Therefore, since there are cases when children repeat the fate of their parents or behave the same as they are.

Unfortunately, the Soviet model of education was not the best option for children. Many kids of previous generations lived in dysfunctional families or have one or more psychological trauma.

Injuries the past a significant impact on your life. In no other way. Therefore, the only correct way out of the situation - to admit that they have and that they affect you, and begin to take steps towards a new life, free from old negatives.

So, what might inspire your parents or immediate environment from an early age?





1. "Do not be yourself»
The nearest environment inspires the child that in order to be loved, he needs to be what it wants to see, but not himself. A man with such a setting often dissatisfied with their lives and live in a constant state of internal conflict - he wants to do what he wants, but then he would be painfully ashamed of the parent who gave the opposite setting. This feeling of guilt remains, even when the parents do not play such an important role in human life. Their way of constantly continues to live in it, and has a huge impact on all actions and decisions taken by this man.

2. "Do not live»
This setting appears when the child talk about how difficult it is to him is necessary, as with the need to bother him that after his appearance, everything went awry, he and all the upsets him some problems. Little man finds that his parents would have been easier if it did not exist, and behaves accordingly - softly, quietly, trying not to catch the eye and occupy as little space in the (often these children are small and thin) . Also, kids with a similar setup can not constantly try to yourself specifically "kill" - severely ill or fall and break something. In adult life, their destructive tendencies in relation to himself may take the form of ... drawn to extreme sports.

3. "Do not trust yourself»
Such parents inspire their children to the firm belief that they know best what is good and right for their child. Such behavior, they make him trust the opinions of others more than his. It is not difficult to imagine what people grow out of such children, - dependent, non-automatic.

4. "Do not be a baby»
This installation of the parents can get a child who is often blamed and punished for his childish behavior - forbid him laugh out loud, running around, making noise, fooling around, have fun, calling it to mind with the phrase: "What you're acting like a little?". Thus, the child formed the understanding that to be a little - it is bad, and the adults - well. When a child grows up, he does not know how to rest and relax. And if they indulge their little weaknesses, then long afterwards he feels guilty.

5. "Do not feel»
This could be a ban on any negative feelings, censure and ridicule of children's anger, resentment, fear. In adult life, a person may not notice and do not accept the presence at these feelings that it creates additional problems and difficulties in relationships with other people.

6. "Be the best" or "not successful»
Two polar suggestion. In the case of the first - parents very much want the child to be successful and meet their expectations. So he is constantly talking about the fact that it makes sense to do everything at the very best. Growing up, such a person believes that you can be happy only by being successful at 100%. In the second case, the parents tell the child that he is a loser, and he still will not. With this setting, an adult is very difficult to achieve given any.

7. "No one can be trusted»
World presented the child as a dangerous and hostile place where everything is just waiting to deceive and betray him. Parents set up the little man against everything that surrounds it, calling them to believe only. In adult life, at such a child will have problems with confidence to others.

8. "Do not do»
Trying to take care of their child, the parents and then repeated that he will not climb, do not touch, it is - it is dangerous, and there can be dropped. Growing up, these children feel fear and uncertainty before the beginning of each case, are not able to make independent decisions.

This is not the only option directives that we have a child and are then directed our lives, when we grow up. To identify such installation at - the first step towards a better and fuller life.

All sorts of directives is very difficult to identify and difficult to be corrected. Your mind will block attempts to fix anything, and the subconscious mind - fear change and do everything to avoid them. But some effort and with the help of competent assistance of the possible and necessary to get rid of these suggestions, and change their lives for the better.

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