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"The Roots of pride"
One day a man was walking ulitse.
And when he hears the conversation of mother with a small - six or seven years, not more - son.
More precisely, its enthusiastic and cooing monologue:
- You are my most beautiful, most intelligent, look how your teacher today praising! About anyone else do not say! And in the music school you do not have an equal. And hockey coach says you're a real talent - the fastest, most powerful ...
- And the most accurate! - Insert absorbs every word and take it for granted, boy.
- Will I have the greatest man in the world! - Summed finally mother.
And, without ceasing to praise the boy, led to the cafe "Gourmand" treat him with all that he had just no wish! ..
Looked after them people. He remembered his childhood.
How too - praised and extolled his all and sundry.
And with a sigh, I realized why it is now so difficult, almost impossible to deal with his pride ...
How to raise children in Tibet
No humiliation and corporal punishment. The only reason that hitting children - they can not fight back. More this sin "gentle and amazing».
- The first period of 5 years. With a child should be treated as a king. PROHIBIT nothing can.
Only distract. If he does something dangerous, something to make and publish a frightened face frightened cry. The child understands this language perfectly. At this time laid the activity, curiosity, interest in life. The child has not yet been able to build a long chain of logic. For example, he broke an expensive vase. He does not understand that buying a vase you have to work to earn money. Punishment he will perceive as the suppression of a position of strength. You teach him not to beat a vase, and obey the one who is stronger. It you want?
- The second period from 5 to 10. At this time, contact with the child "like a slave." To set them tasks and require their implementation. Can be punished for non-compliance (but not physically). At this time, actively developing the intellect. The child must learn to predict people's reactions to his actions, cause a positive attitude toward themselves and avoid negative manifestation. At this time, do not be afraid to load the child knowledge.
- The third period from 10 to 15. How to raise a child in this period? How to handle it? As an equal. Not on an equal footing, namely "as an equal", because you still have more experience and knowledge. Advice to him on all important issues, provide and promote independence. His will to impose a "velvet gloves" in the discussion, tips, advice. If you do not like something, then aktsentiruete his attention to the negative consequences of avoiding outright bans. At this time the autonomy and independence of thought.
- Last period of 15 years. Treat it with respect. To raise a child is too late and you just have to reap the fruits of their labors.
What are the consequences of non-compliance can cause these rules?
- If you suppress a child under 5 years old, then you suppress his vitality, zest for life, intelligence, immunity. Teach him thoughtlessly and habitually obey brute force. Make him easy prey to all sorts of villains.
- If you continue to lisp after 5, the child will grow infantile, unable to work and all the spiritual efforts.
- If you take care of the child, as a little after 10, the child will grow up insecure, will be dependent on a more independent friends who may not always have the desired impact.
- If you do not respect the child after 15, then he will not forgive and leave forever as soon as possible.
And when he hears the conversation of mother with a small - six or seven years, not more - son.
More precisely, its enthusiastic and cooing monologue:
- You are my most beautiful, most intelligent, look how your teacher today praising! About anyone else do not say! And in the music school you do not have an equal. And hockey coach says you're a real talent - the fastest, most powerful ...
- And the most accurate! - Insert absorbs every word and take it for granted, boy.
- Will I have the greatest man in the world! - Summed finally mother.
And, without ceasing to praise the boy, led to the cafe "Gourmand" treat him with all that he had just no wish! ..
Looked after them people. He remembered his childhood.
How too - praised and extolled his all and sundry.
And with a sigh, I realized why it is now so difficult, almost impossible to deal with his pride ...
How to raise children in Tibet
No humiliation and corporal punishment. The only reason that hitting children - they can not fight back. More this sin "gentle and amazing».
- The first period of 5 years. With a child should be treated as a king. PROHIBIT nothing can.
Only distract. If he does something dangerous, something to make and publish a frightened face frightened cry. The child understands this language perfectly. At this time laid the activity, curiosity, interest in life. The child has not yet been able to build a long chain of logic. For example, he broke an expensive vase. He does not understand that buying a vase you have to work to earn money. Punishment he will perceive as the suppression of a position of strength. You teach him not to beat a vase, and obey the one who is stronger. It you want?
- The second period from 5 to 10. At this time, contact with the child "like a slave." To set them tasks and require their implementation. Can be punished for non-compliance (but not physically). At this time, actively developing the intellect. The child must learn to predict people's reactions to his actions, cause a positive attitude toward themselves and avoid negative manifestation. At this time, do not be afraid to load the child knowledge.
- The third period from 10 to 15. How to raise a child in this period? How to handle it? As an equal. Not on an equal footing, namely "as an equal", because you still have more experience and knowledge. Advice to him on all important issues, provide and promote independence. His will to impose a "velvet gloves" in the discussion, tips, advice. If you do not like something, then aktsentiruete his attention to the negative consequences of avoiding outright bans. At this time the autonomy and independence of thought.
- Last period of 15 years. Treat it with respect. To raise a child is too late and you just have to reap the fruits of their labors.
What are the consequences of non-compliance can cause these rules?
- If you suppress a child under 5 years old, then you suppress his vitality, zest for life, intelligence, immunity. Teach him thoughtlessly and habitually obey brute force. Make him easy prey to all sorts of villains.
- If you continue to lisp after 5, the child will grow infantile, unable to work and all the spiritual efforts.
- If you take care of the child, as a little after 10, the child will grow up insecure, will be dependent on a more independent friends who may not always have the desired impact.
- If you do not respect the child after 15, then he will not forgive and leave forever as soon as possible.
