My daughter is a lazy hostess, so I sometimes went to clean her up, but recently she announced that she did not want me in her apartment. Bashny.Net

For many it will not be a secret that parental overprotection It may not disappear with age. Some “kids” are allowed to fly out of the nest on their own (some are even pushed out), and some are not. And, in fact, it can be quite a tangible problem. Influence future life, career and not only.



Parents usually care too much about their only child. Even if he was born in a late marriage. The couple already have some savings, ideas about life, career. He spends all his free time on his only child. Which, of course, they have the best, the smartest and probably the most beautiful. Compare this relationship with parents who have three or more children. Just heaven and earth.

My daughter was always in the first place for me and my husband. We couldn’t have children for a long time and when we finally found out that I was pregnant, it was like falling in love again. It's not a story like a polished series. We had a lot of problems, but the news of the baby-to-be shut them all down for a while. Konstantin and I stopped fighting so often, he started coming home from work earlier, even on Fridays.

The birth was hard. Very much. The doctor said we would have no other chance. So Kira, my daughter, is without exaggeration a medical miracle. I have treated her like a miracle all my life.



For the first couple of years, I, like all inexperienced mothers, shook at her every step, every breath. When it turned out that she Kartvit, her husband ran around the city in search of a good specialist. Six months later, her speech was perfect. I advise everyone to solve this problem from an early age.

We sent her to a good school. With a mathematical bias. I know that most girls choose other subjects. But I wanted her to grow up surrounded by good teachers and, of course, educated children. We hired tutors so that my daughter would score the right number of balls each time and go to the next class. I can even say a little that she did well herself. But it never hurts to be safe.



Peels also gave her to violin and tennis lessons. The husband offered to talk about her with his boss, so he could help get her into riding lessons. But then we decided it would be too much. Our budget is not unlimited, and the horses are a little scary. Someone will say that this is hyperprotection of parents, but we did not think so.

Anyway, Keira grew up like a little lady, and we did everything we could to help her. My husband worked like a horse at work. And I ran our family. Life in the countryside loves work. I have been taught to him since childhood. We were four sisters, and I, the eldest, looked after everyone and pouted for everyone. I know what happens in other families.

But after Kira got married, our relationship with her changed strangely. Our side gave the young people housing, an apartment. The groom made a good repair. That's it, my daughter seems to be avoiding me and my dad. Especially me. And I don't understand how it happened.



Peels Relationship with daughter The first six months was even more or less. I came up with different ideas for the interior. For example, the kitchen cannot be white. It's beautiful, but very impractical. So a fight. She, you see, wants a white kitchen. Who will wash it every week?

Then came the wallpaper. I recommended staying on the mustard version. Like us. This is pleasant for the eyes, and you can not see if you put a stain. And when the kids go, there's no way. I remember how Kira painted everything in the room as a child. And we didn't yell at her, of course. But then finding and buying more rolls was a whole problem. So why not do it right now?

There was also a conflict in the bathroom. My father and I recommended a shower. Modern, practical, saving space and finances does not hit so hard. But no, there has to be a bath. I don't understand people who lie there for days, soak up. You should have done that before. Now that's it, adulthood has begun!

But somehow with the completion of the repair, we slowly reconciled. I knew then that Kira wanted to show that she was smart, knew everything. She learned, and her parents no longer ordered her. At least the workers did everything on their conscience. It's a sin to complain.



Peels regular visits But now here are the new antics. I've always been a housewife, you know. That's why I know how to clean. Wash the floors, dust, iron, fold, wash. At first glance it seems that everything is simple and easy. In fact, you need to pay attention to the little things, nuances. Not sweeping the dust under the carpet and thinking no one will notice.

I understand that Kira is not a toiler and her husband is even more so. So I try to visit them from time to time, clean them up if necessary. And every time I see the same thing: in the closet things are stacked up. The windows are divorced. And in the kitchen, the stove is constantly in a thick layer of fat. I'm not talking about the bathroom.



I'm not old yet, I have health. So I'm coming in, helping these two boobs clean up. Let them go about their business, there is no noise from me. What else can we talk about? But no. My daughter quarreled with me and refused to come to them at all. The apartment I gave her, in fact. My husband and I. Which I volunteered to clean up to make them feel more comfortable, you know?

But Kira and even his son-in-law now set conditions: either I come to them on a call, or let me not come at all. They're, you see, busy, yeah. They both have five days and no children. Weekends are free. They can't do anything around the house and they won't let me in. Adults already.



To be honest, I don’t even want to be offended by my son-in-law. Who am I? But a daughter does this to her own mother. It's a shame, of course. I don't know what word to use. She was such a bright and intelligent child. I remember it all. What now? Neglect of parents and complete disregard. What did we deserve? They say that the current generation is not good. Now I agree with that, too.