Living with my daughter-in-law was unbearable, so I decided to take a couple of days off with my daughter, but she wasn’t happy about it.

Separate housing An important aspect for the happy life of a young family. Personal space in which there is no place for people from the outside. The very support fortress in which you can live, relax, plan the future and comfortably spend time. Therefore, it is so important for us that no one disturbs our peace with unexpected visits when we are at home.



And this feeling of peace does not go away with the years, but even increases. “Homes and walls help,” there is a saying. Therefore, when an elderly person is deprived of the opportunity to be alone in their home, this can lead to real stress. Unfortunately, life causes children to expose their parents to this stress quite often. What to do if you have to live young somewhere. How do you deal with minimal negativity?

My daughter is 25 years old. My son's 29. I love my children more than anything in the world and have spent my whole life trying to live so that they were well-fed, dressed and provided with everything they needed. My husband and I gave them a good education and tried to educate them. They didn't scream, they didn't force them to learn lessons, they didn't punish them. I think we did it.

I understand the importance of fathers and children. You see, my mom and I had a good relationship, too. But she always taught me that it's easier to get along with peers than with someone from another generation. Everything is due to different interests, knowledge behind the back, practical experience. This is normal because the world is constantly changing. Old people find it difficult to keep track of this, and young people are not interested in turning to the past.



So as the kids grew up, I was hoping they could be able to live separately. Not in the sense that I wanted to kick them out, I just liked to think they would be able to make that move themselves. However, my hopes were not fulfilled.

My son brought my daughter-in-law into our house. It was planned, but I tried to push that day as far as I could. They had enough space: in our three-room apartment we lived comfortably with my husband, daughter and son. So the two people in my son's room didn't bother anyone. But the wayward daughter-in-law began to piss everyone off.

She likes to talk, so she doesn't get into her pocket for a word. In their union, Olya is probably the main one. And now, from time to time, she tries to command us. I threw out my dad's chair. Just like that, without saying a word. It was old furniture, pulled over several times, and to be honest, this furniture had long been falling apart. My husband loved the chair and it was comfortable.



Peels Olga bought a new chair instead, with retractable footrests and adjustable armrests. I gave it to my husband, like making a nice gesture to an old man. But the new chair was no longer so comfortable. I had to get used to it, learn to tune in. And the interior, frankly, it also did not fit. We had repairs done on old-fashioned patterns, and this thing looked like something from the future.

The husband then, I remember, was nervous all day, but he did not say something to his daughter-in-law, he was ashamed. Then Olya began to make a reshuffle, because, according to her, there was absolutely no harmony in our apartment. It is good that the son then persuaded her to stop, and the reshuffle they did only at home. I don't want a mess in the house.

She doesn’t want children, preferring to make a career. And this does not suit me either, because what career can we talk about if the two of you do not pull out to save money to be able to rent a good home? In short, I don't understand her motives. It’s not that I’m directly angry with my daughter-in-law, it’s just that she’s been a lot in my life. And that was the problem.



My daughter got married very well. My son-in-law is calm, quiet. From his parents he received a house and pleasant manners. Well, brains are lucky: to be a boss at his age, you can only dream about it. Naturally, he took his daughter to him, and now they live happily. Good for them both.

But back to my son and daughter-in-law. Recently, they invited a mutual friend to visit, and he came not alone, but with a friend. I don’t know what they celebrated there, but the laughter and fun continued until the night. The next morning, while my husband and I were pretending to sleep, everyone quickly gathered and went somewhere. Then, on the phone, they told us that they were apologizing for the noisy night, but they left to meet with the graduates.



Even then I realized that I would not be able to withstand such a capito for a long time, and I had a plan in my head how to make a short vacation without much financial spending. I decided to visit my daughter. They have a big house, I will not be seen or heard. I can cook dinner and clean it up if necessary. We have a great relationship with our son-in-law, he won't mind.

But my daughter ruined all my plans. On the phone, she told me not to come. Said my husband wouldn't like it, he wouldn't like it, and I'd be ugly if I tried to push him. I was very surprised and disappointed. But the next day I decided to call him on his personal number. I'm his mother-in-law after all. I make a request, not a demand.

But it was a big mistake. After a couple of horns, I heard my daughter's voice again, but this time he was angry. She repeated what I said last time, only in high tones, and she hung up. My plan to take a vacation from home routine failed. Even my husband, who was not happy with my idea from the beginning, felt sorry for me.



And what to do, we do not have extra money for the hotel. And noisy neighbors quickly get tired, even if they are relatives. What can I do? But I was confused by the behavior of my daughter, she did not even let me talk to my son-in-law. Has she gotten away from me in such a short time? We raised her differently. What could have happened in that time, I don’t know.