What to remember for young parents Bashny.Net

How many songs about mother and child exist in folk art, how many parables and legends about the special connection of these close people! What is the image of the father in folklore? He is almost a stranger, an outside observer. But its role in the development of the child is difficult to overestimate.

And today's edition. "Site" He asked me to think about what it was like. fatherhoodAnd why is it so often and quite deservedly said that mom gives life, and dad gives the power to live. This applies to both sons and daughters.





Surprisingly, the role of the father in the family remains an undisclosed topic for a variety of researchers. While some results seem logical and predictable, others are surprising.





It is proved that in complete families, children are better adapted to life, easier to make acquaintances and adapt to society. However, this relationship works only in cases where the child and the father have a trusting relationship and the parent is actively involved in the life of his child.

In families with a father, children are much less likely to drop out of school, break the law, suffer from psychological problems, fall into bad company and enter into unhealthy relationships. They often get a good job.





It should be noted that the above benefits are possible only in the case of active paternal presence, when the parent spends a certain minimum of time on the child. And this pastime should be of quality. Sitting together in front of the TV does not count.

The first experience of the relationship the child also gets in the family. If we are talking about a girl, it is thanks to the father that the future woman has a feeling that she is smart, talented, beautiful, loved, amazing. It's possible when a father is proud to have a daughter, a girl.





If the father is not ready to accept this “different” feminine essence, if he wanted a boy more, if he was disappointed and demonstrated this, if he devalued or made his daughter a target for aggression, then this gap cannot be filled. And in adulthood, these problems will make themselves felt.

If we talk about a boy, then male identity comes to the fore. The son wants to be like the father or has nothing to do with him. Either he is proud of his father, or he is ashamed that he does not live up to his father’s expectations. It is important for the boy that the parent praises not himself, but approves of his achievements.

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In a normal relationship, a son wants to be like his father. Then he says he’s superior in some ways. And finally he comes to the realization that he is a worthy child of his father.

Subsequently, how the father behaved in the family, how he treated his wife and children, what values and beliefs guided him, how he acted in critical situations – all this becomes a basic guide for his sons. Would they want to be like that? Or would you rather be the opposite of your father?





From the mother the child receives unconditional love. She cares, nourishes, soothes, protects. The father embodies protection, but at the same time encourages risk, demands results, evaluates achievements and failures, educates character.

If on a walk the mother carefully protects the baby even from small puddles, so that the child does not wet his feet, does not get dirty clothes and shoes, does not get cold and does not freeze, then with a folder you can run through puddles, and chase pigeons, and eat ice cream. Of course, there are risks in all of these activities, but they push the boundaries, encourage experimentation.





The influence of the father on children It is huge, and from the first years. And although it seems that the young child is more attached to the mother, and the father does not miss at all, in fact this is not the case. And as the child grows up, a good relationship with his father comes to the fore. Therefore, it is impossible to turn off from the educational process.