Mom was 17 years old, returned from Italy and begged to buy her an apartment

“I can’t throw my mother out on the street!” But I don’t know what to do now, complains our reader Natalia. Mother many years ago went to work in Italy, leaving her with her sister in the care of her grandmother. She abandoned her children, married an Italian, and never returned home. And now she claims an apartment that the heroine is going to sell. How this story ended, read further in the article.



The situation in my family is now not the best way. But it all started long before. When I was 8 and my sister was 6, my mother went to Italy to work. My father left us the day before, there was no money. And her mother decided that she could earn money abroad. But there's a nuance.

Mom left, married a very mature Italian almost immediately, and forgot about us. No way. We were raised by our grandmother. It's scary to remember what we've been through. You know what kind of pensioners get paid. Lyuda and I started working very early. They studied hard to get an education and find a decent job.



I really wanted to thank Grandma. She was working, too, even though she already had a pension. There just wasn't enough money. Lucky to have at least a 3-room apartment. Not immediately, but Grandma realized that one room could be rented out. She put a good student in. She paid a little, but somehow lived, did not bother.

And my mother disappeared. When her grandmother tried to contact her, she found reasons not to talk to her. Of course, there was no talk of money or help. My sister and I literally grew up without a mother. She had nothing to do with our lives.



When my grandmother passed away last year, I lost the person closest to me. My mom didn’t come to take her on her last trip. I was 24 years old, and I did all the paperwork and preparation myself. Yeah, I had to grow up very early. But I had no choice.

What to do with a careless mother And now it turns out that things in Italy were not so good. Yes, she married a successful man. But he's gone. And although my mother thought he would give her all his fortune, there was no miracle.

While her mother lived in Italy and worked there, she spent all her money on herself. I didn't put anything off for later. So it turned out that she remained at the broken trough. That's when she remembered her daughters!



It came like a thunderbolt in the clear sky. She says she's going to live with us now that she grew up in this apartment. Like, she rightfully belongs to her. But here's the bad luck! My grandmother left it to me and my sister. She is 22 years old and is still in university. But in the future, we planned to sell my grandmother’s house and buy us a one-room apartment.

My mother didn’t fit into my plans. She says if we don't want to live with her, we should buy her one. Why would I? I don’t know what to do or how to reach a common denominator with my mother. She became a complete stranger to me. I don't want to live with her, but I can't just kick her out of the house.



She's threatening to sue. The apartment was transferred to our property illegally. But that's ridiculous! My mom's only been in town for a couple of weeks, and I've been sucking enough juice out of me to last a couple of years. I hate being in the same room with her, let alone living! What do we do?

Vital wisdom and advice of the editorial board Natalia found herself in a difficult situation. And the worst thing is that you have to deal with your own mother, it would seem, not the last person in her life. But this careless woman just abandoned her children and went to another country. Now she wants her daughters to buy her an apartment. Obviously, they will not do that. Can they live under the same roof as a traitor?



It's a difficult moral choice. One way or another, Natalia should find a good notary and lawyer if the case really goes to trial. We wish her strength and patience!

What would you advise this young woman and her sister?