The psychologist explained which personalities are not worth your participation and empathy Bashny.Net

Human capacity for empathy It's called empathy. And it is great when you are a sensitive person who can not be indifferent and indifferent to the experiences of other people. However, in this case, you need to know the measure.

Today's edition. "Site" He suggests talking about the types of people to whom this very empathy should not be shown. And the reasons can be very different. However, invariably the losing side is exactly a person who is not indifferent to other people's problems.



Thanks to empathy, a person finds a common language with other people and makes friends. However, the habit of empathy can be harmful when some people try to take advantage of the empathy of such a sensitive person. Who are they?

1. Professional complainants
   Such people have certainly met everyone. They complain constantly, and they always know how to find a new reason for their lamentations. And the second half does not please, and the children do not obey, and colleagues are unscrupulous, and the authorities do not appreciate it.
   
   
   
   Do not rush to console and give good advice, because this person will not listen to anything and will not change anything. He is comfortable in this way. The victim's position suits him.
   
   If others show empathy and try to help, he enjoys the attention he receives. If he doesn’t help, he becomes convinced that everyone around him is really bad, and he is good. Admitting your mistakes and changing is not about him.
   
   
   
   
   
   
2. Lovers of failure
   These people are always unhappy with the way their lives are. And the failures are so obvious that they are clearly visible even from the outside. Such a person experiences failure after failure, constantly turns the wrong way, refuses to bring it to the end, although success was already very close.
   
   
   
   Attempts to help more often simply convince such a person of his independence and inability. Neither criticism nor support is often able to push the lover of failure out of the usual rut. Empathy will only help a person get used to his situation.
   
   
   
   
   
   
3. Typical egoists
   They believe that the world revolves around them. Therefore, they do not take others seriously. They do not want to accept that people around them also have their own desires, beliefs and aspirations. If you help such a person, it does not mean that he will ever help you in return. He takes help for granted. And to build an equal relationship with such a special will not work.
   
   
   
   
   
   

Editorial advice From communicating with other people want to receive positive. If that’s not the case, why keep in touch? However, communicating with representatives of the above categories, it is difficult to maintain a positive attitude.

Empathy without getting anything in return can sometimes lead to depression. Therefore, you should not give in to remorse if you do not want to maintain relationships with toxic people.