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Why it’s time to stop believing in the belief that the only child in the family will grow up selfish
Nowadays, more and more young people stop at the birth of one child. Not long ago, though. single-child It was rare. They did not understand this decision of their parents.
There were opinions that the only child will grow up unhappy, because he will have no brothers or sisters. And the fact that the parents run only around him will lead to the fact that the child will grow a real egoist. Is that true?
Why is everyone sure that the only child in the family necessarily thinks only of himself? Like, if from an early age the child got used to the fact that all parental love and all attention belong only to him, then he simply will not learn to take into account the interests of other people. As a result, such children will find it difficult to find a common language with peers.
It was believed that if parents refuse to have more children, then this decision they cause the child some psychological harm. Among other problems, the inflated expectations of parents from a single child were also called. Possible in the future and conflicts on the basis of the fact that on the shoulders of the only son (or daughter) will fall all the care associated with the care of elderly parents.
Over time, this topic interested people more and more. But with each new study, researchers found that single children in their families are almost no different from children from large families.
The stereotype turned out to be that only children are withdrawn and poorly able to make acquaintances. After all, it turns out that every child naturally craves communication. Therefore, it is easy to find those with whom he is interested and comfortable to spend time.
Distinctive feature
By the way, the distinguishing feature of only children is that they immediately understand with whom they want to be friends, and with whom they do not want to maintain relationships.
The researchers attribute this to the fact that if there are other children in the family, the child in any case is forced to build relationships with everyone who lives next to him under the same roof. But the only child is not ready for such compromises. Therefore, it is not necessary to be friends with everyone.
Among the advantages, the researchers distinguish that the only child parents pay more attention, communicate more often with him, play more, better meet his needs. Although the presence of other children in the family is a plus in stressful moments, because then the support of everyone is extremely important.
In general, various studies only prove that be the only child in the family It has both its pros and cons. That doesn’t make your child better or worse. After all, everything depends on the parents, on their desire and ability to give each son or daughter the best that they have.
How many children do you think are optimal and why? Share your opinion.
There were opinions that the only child will grow up unhappy, because he will have no brothers or sisters. And the fact that the parents run only around him will lead to the fact that the child will grow a real egoist. Is that true?
Why is everyone sure that the only child in the family necessarily thinks only of himself? Like, if from an early age the child got used to the fact that all parental love and all attention belong only to him, then he simply will not learn to take into account the interests of other people. As a result, such children will find it difficult to find a common language with peers.
It was believed that if parents refuse to have more children, then this decision they cause the child some psychological harm. Among other problems, the inflated expectations of parents from a single child were also called. Possible in the future and conflicts on the basis of the fact that on the shoulders of the only son (or daughter) will fall all the care associated with the care of elderly parents.
Over time, this topic interested people more and more. But with each new study, researchers found that single children in their families are almost no different from children from large families.
The stereotype turned out to be that only children are withdrawn and poorly able to make acquaintances. After all, it turns out that every child naturally craves communication. Therefore, it is easy to find those with whom he is interested and comfortable to spend time.
Distinctive feature
By the way, the distinguishing feature of only children is that they immediately understand with whom they want to be friends, and with whom they do not want to maintain relationships.
The researchers attribute this to the fact that if there are other children in the family, the child in any case is forced to build relationships with everyone who lives next to him under the same roof. But the only child is not ready for such compromises. Therefore, it is not necessary to be friends with everyone.
Among the advantages, the researchers distinguish that the only child parents pay more attention, communicate more often with him, play more, better meet his needs. Although the presence of other children in the family is a plus in stressful moments, because then the support of everyone is extremely important.
In general, various studies only prove that be the only child in the family It has both its pros and cons. That doesn’t make your child better or worse. After all, everything depends on the parents, on their desire and ability to give each son or daughter the best that they have.
How many children do you think are optimal and why? Share your opinion.
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