When I was little, the terrible torment of my childhood was
cleaning. I always knew my mom was coming back from work by six o'clock, and there was a panic 15 minutes before she arrived. Clothing with a whistle flew under the bed, a stool saved the cabinet from collapse, and books and toys mixed with socks. Socks are a separate story that is embarrassing to mention.
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Life in adulthood has changed a little. Even though I don’t mix dirty clothes with clean clothes, getting ready for work in the morning is catastrophically difficult. My closet is like a keeper of chaos, it's better not to look there again. What came first, I put on. And the kitchen is experiencing not the best times, if not for the dishwasher, we would have to eat from plastic dishes.
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Before the appearance of children, sloppyness in the home was invisible. We spent little time at home: concerts, walks, romance. No one demanded order, and the mess was easy to fix. The children filled the house with insane happiness, but worries about cleanliness became a heavy burden.
Things went wrong: two kids and a new job did not get along with beauty and brilliance. Up until a certain point, I was worried, after eight hours of work, I would grab a vacuum cleaner, put scattered clothes and books on shelves. The evening fairy tale had to be changed to clean lessons, and the strength to read books was no longer there.
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"I'm turning into my mother!" I came across this idea during another sorting of junk in the nursery. I realized at that moment that I was doing everything wrong.
Bringing order to life It's more important than hanging things on your shoulders. And if it's all gone, I won't trade a happy family for a clean apartment!
We are used to living according to a pattern and driving ourselves into frames. It’s all about this systematized and orderly world, where, in the quest to organize our lives, we encounter the reality that life is unpredictable and chaotic! All attempts to bring order to this chaos have failed. Everything happens exactly the opposite – order creates even more madness.
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No matter how much you try to clean up, this will never work, this is a temporary phenomenon, and you need to accept this. People who have a mess at home seem strange and wrong to others, but they are not!
This does not mean that we should plunge into chaos.
Rules and organization Very useful and important, but do not overestimate them. Modern psychologists have investigated the causes of people’s sloppiness and concluded that people who tend to throw things away and accumulate garbage are actually more creative than everyone else. Amazing, but true.
Kathleen Vohs, Ph.D., said, We all want to be more creative people, more insightful. My advice is, if you have a stupor, move to a dirty room. This will allow you to go beyond your usual perception and come up with fresh ideas faster. Order is the result of our desire for security, chaos is our desire to creatively rethink the world.”
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But in order to ignore the rules and live in your creative confusion, you need incredible strength. Albert Einstein once said, “If disorder on the table means disorder in the head, then what does an empty table mean?”
Creative people are not obsessed with the details of their lives. They see a picture of the future, go with the flow and easily adapt to change, without wasting their time resources on such a strange thing as cleaning.
Mania to clean up is often considered a sign
disorder. There is a scientific name for this disease – obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Sometimes OCD develops into severe phobias and depression. Excessive cleanliness can provoke Alzheimer’s disease, and the pathological desire to get rid of microbes contributes to the development of autoimmune diseases!
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There is nothing wrong with a healthy approach to cleaning, it is a great activity for distraction and cheering up, because you see an exceptionally positive result! This helps to throw out negative emotions, structure thoughts.
Excessive craving for cleanliness is a sign of insecurity and complexity. This is a kind of protection from the outside world, where a person feels uncomfortable.
Pathological cleansing They are crazy about small things that are invisible to an ordinary person. But the roots of the problem are deeper. You need to work with a psychologist.
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Do not push yourself to extremes under any circumstances. Remember:
The Art of Order at Home and in Life It’s not easy, everything has to happen at the same time. These are complementary concepts, dissatisfaction with one necessarily affects the second.
The ideal environment does not allow you to open up and generates anxiety and anxiety. Remember what makes you feel happy, and you will know exactly what you need for happiness, and you can clean the apartment tomorrow!
Show this article to your friends, let them not get hung up on cleaning!