The rules of a strong family: 5 things in marriage that you can not tell strangers

“The family is the union of two people, their union for the birth and upbringing of children. All the world's religions have helped to create, strengthen and develop the family. The family is a cell of any state, says psychologist Sergey Lazarev.

“If the family is destroyed, the state becomes unviable. If individual cells die, sooner or later the whole body will die. The main point of any relationship between a man and a woman is to develop the soul and increase love.”

Lazarev believes that there are things that to save the family, you can not tell anyone. In other words: “Do not take out garbage from the house.” That's the garbage we're talking about.





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1. Do not show anyone intimate photos: pictures in which you are two or only your soul mate in a frank way. Perhaps they seem very beautiful to you and you think that there is nothing to be ashamed of. But that doesn’t mean you have to show it to someone else. It is a secret that should remain a secret. Otherwise, your partner may be offended, perceive your actions as disrespectful or think that you do not value his trust much.
   
   
   
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2. No one should know about financial problems in the family. After a while everything will be fine, but your husband or wife in the eyes of others will remain losers who do not know how to earn. This will affect self-esteem and entail the reluctance of the second half to do anything in the future.
   
   
   
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3. Details of family disputes and quarrels should remain between the parties. People from outside, even if they are relatives and friends, will not be able to judge who is right and who is guilty in a conflict they have not witnessed. And the subjective point of view they make can damage the reputation of one of the spouses. “Without conflict, there can be no development; a happy family is one where there are conflicts, but they are resolved correctly. When one of the spouses does not compromise, believes that he is absolutely right, sets ultimatums, it is useless to keep such a family, Lazarev said.
   
   “If a person is not ready to change, to improve his character, to forgive and sacrifice, it is easier to send him to free float.” In order for the family to have normal relations, it is necessary to constantly show concern for each other, emphasize their unity, and say compliments to each other.”
   
   
   
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4. Personal life is something to keep secret. The husband bares his soul and body, hoping that his other half will accept him as he is. He won't talk to others. At the same time, serious problems in bed need to be discussed. But only with a doctor of the appropriate profile.
   
   “The basis of a strong family is friendship between spouses, which is more important than the intimate side of a relationship, since intimacy is the manifestation of instincts, and friendship is the warmth of the soul, it is unselfish love. If marriage is based only on erotic feelings, it cannot be durable. Feelings will weaken – there will be treason, and the marriage will break up, says Lazarev.
   
   “A friend is one with whom one can go camping or scouting, who can save, sacrifice his piece of bread, and not fall into hysteria and depression at the slightest difficulty. The more the spouses give love and warmth to each other, the more they are friends rather than lovers, the less they will depend on sexual relations.”
   
   
   
   
   
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5. What your partner really thinks about your friends and acquaintances, these friends shouldn’t know. It's just gonna get you out of touch with them and narrow your social circle. It happens that parents, sisters, brothers do not accept the chosen one or chosen one of their family members. What they say about this man behind his back, he should not know.
   
   
   
   
   
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Family relations It only concerns the spouses themselves. No one else should interfere in the family union, otherwise it will cease to exist in its original form as a collective property.The essence of family relations - to help each other learn to love and purify the soul, concludes Lazarev.

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