Pros and cons of marriage in old age

A friend of mine took her mother home after her father died. She was married, raised two children and thought that mothers and relatives would be easier to adapt to a new life.

The old woman began to help with the children, took them to mugs, cooked food for everyone, cleaned the house. My daughter loved it, and for a long time she thought that my mother was happy in the new house.

But the widow communication with her daughter, grandchildren and son-in-law was not limited. Over time, she began attending evenings for lonely hearts, which were held at a local club. There she met a man whom she soon married.

The adult daughter did not understand her: She betrayed the memory of her father. You want to be young when you're old? She traded her grandchildren and me for some man. How do you communicate with her after that? ?



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The case of a widow is not an isolated one. Many widows and widowers who lost their half in old age remarry. What motivates them? Obviously, there is no longer any physical attraction. Pensioners have their own, special reasons to unite.

1. Need for household assistance
   When people become physically weaker, it is easier for them to unite to cope with everyday problems. In rural areas, this is the processing of the garden, farming, in urban areas - the solution of pressing domestic problems: cooking, shopping, cleaning the house. Perhaps united and do not love each other with passionate love, but they feel that they can rely on their partner, enlist his support, see him as a support. This sense of care and security becomes more valuable than passion.
   
   
   
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2. Self-care needs
   Deterioration of health, exacerbation of chronic diseases, hampers the normal functioning of older men and women. It's great when they find someone who can help them in a moment of weakness. This mutual aid brings them together and unites them.
   
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3. Improving the financial situation, a way to improve housing conditions
   It's simple. It is easier to live on two pensions than on one. Someone has a nice apartment, and someone has some savings. By pooling resources, it is easier to meet needs.
   
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4. Feelings
   Feelings also have a place in the marriage of older people. Sometimes the family is formed only because of them. For example, there are old friends who once had sympathy for each other or even relationships, but then they were separated by time and fate. Feelings flare up again during a chance encounter and people decide to stay together.
   
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5. Trying to avoid loneliness
   Older people are often lonely. They may have children and grandchildren. But their presence does not always indicate good and close relations between relatives. Even when fathers and children get along well and love each other, they often live in different cities or apartments. At home, an elderly person is left alone. It is so important to have someone around!
   
   
   
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6. The need for a family, marriage partner
   Many people want to have someone with whom they can talk. At any age. They consider close to someone with whom you can not only share household chores, but also meet in interests. They create a family as a spiritual union.
   
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Treatment of elderly family members It’s not always right and good in our society. Often. householderMostly young people are becoming a burden.

Even when it is not, communication with representatives of other generations still does not replace him with communication with his peer. It follows that it is useful for an elderly person without a couple to find a partner for living together, a soul mate, and create a family with him for physical and psychological mutual help.





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