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How to raise children Mikhail Kozhukhov
The father tries to pass on all his experience to his son, to cultivate a masculine character in him, to lay down the correct principles of life. Mother treats her son quite differently: she shows care, affection, teaches to be kind and loving.
But the father has a special emotional contact with his daughter, she does not copy him like her mother, but builds a relationship with him.
What are the differences between the upbringing of a boy and a girl, consider the personal story of the traveler and TV presenter Mikhail Kozhukhov.
With a son you always overestimate the bar, and with a daughter - underestimate. I think most fathers dream of having a boy mainly because we don't know how to deal with girls. With the boy, it is clear what games to play and what toys to buy, and girls are alien creatures!
DepositPhotos But then it was discovered that the emotional happiness of communicating with her daughter surpasses everything. You are more demanding of your son, you want him to be better than you and raise the bar prohibitively high. With a daughter, such things do not pass, you have to lower this bar all the time, on the contrary. Just because you melt from one look of her, Kozhukhov reveals.
When children are born, a man feels responsible and realizes his task - to show a little boy and a little girl what a man should be. The only difference is that the boy will be equal to his father in the process of his own formation, and the girl will choose a husband like his father.
The traveler recalls: I remember very well the time when they were born, when I felt both wild joy and a sense of great responsibility. I hope my kids see how I feel about what I do. At least I will be an example to them.”
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He told Kozhukhov about his mistakes. He was too busy with work. The first word his son said was "soldier." He brought him and his wife to Kabul, where he worked as a war correspondent. It was a risky act, accompanied by domestic difficulties.
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Later, he taught his son the skills he possessed, without thinking about whether they would be useful to him in life. For example, to survive in the wild, to make a fire in the rain, to be able to read the stream of a mountain river to control the boat. He did not know then whether his son would become a traveler, but he prepared him for travel without asking his wishes.
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With his daughter, he could not open up, since by nature he was and remained an emotionally withdrawn person. Kozhukhov was absent a lot and eventually became a telephone and Sunday dad. He has warm relationships with children, but not heartfelt. If the father does not allow himself to open up completely even with children, it negatively affects their ability to empathize.
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Kozhukhov believes that children never grow up in the eyes of their parents. And parents in their eyes are always great authorities: I know for a fact that my children do not realize that I am still an adult like them. I look back on my parents’ experiences, and I realize they were younger than I am now. I thought they were mature and solid. Now my children see me as solid and adult, without realizing that I never became one.
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Child-rearing and education It's very complicated and long. There are no parents who pass it without mistakes.
Without sprinkling your head with ashes, you need to strive for responsibility. Personality of the child in the process of education It is formed by 70%, and only 30% is the result of self-education.
Read more about how to raise a daughter, and about the rules of raising boys in our articles. Follow the links.
But the father has a special emotional contact with his daughter, she does not copy him like her mother, but builds a relationship with him.
What are the differences between the upbringing of a boy and a girl, consider the personal story of the traveler and TV presenter Mikhail Kozhukhov.
With a son you always overestimate the bar, and with a daughter - underestimate. I think most fathers dream of having a boy mainly because we don't know how to deal with girls. With the boy, it is clear what games to play and what toys to buy, and girls are alien creatures!
DepositPhotos But then it was discovered that the emotional happiness of communicating with her daughter surpasses everything. You are more demanding of your son, you want him to be better than you and raise the bar prohibitively high. With a daughter, such things do not pass, you have to lower this bar all the time, on the contrary. Just because you melt from one look of her, Kozhukhov reveals.
When children are born, a man feels responsible and realizes his task - to show a little boy and a little girl what a man should be. The only difference is that the boy will be equal to his father in the process of his own formation, and the girl will choose a husband like his father.
The traveler recalls: I remember very well the time when they were born, when I felt both wild joy and a sense of great responsibility. I hope my kids see how I feel about what I do. At least I will be an example to them.”
DepositPhotos
He told Kozhukhov about his mistakes. He was too busy with work. The first word his son said was "soldier." He brought him and his wife to Kabul, where he worked as a war correspondent. It was a risky act, accompanied by domestic difficulties.
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Later, he taught his son the skills he possessed, without thinking about whether they would be useful to him in life. For example, to survive in the wild, to make a fire in the rain, to be able to read the stream of a mountain river to control the boat. He did not know then whether his son would become a traveler, but he prepared him for travel without asking his wishes.
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With his daughter, he could not open up, since by nature he was and remained an emotionally withdrawn person. Kozhukhov was absent a lot and eventually became a telephone and Sunday dad. He has warm relationships with children, but not heartfelt. If the father does not allow himself to open up completely even with children, it negatively affects their ability to empathize.
DepositPhotos
Kozhukhov believes that children never grow up in the eyes of their parents. And parents in their eyes are always great authorities: I know for a fact that my children do not realize that I am still an adult like them. I look back on my parents’ experiences, and I realize they were younger than I am now. I thought they were mature and solid. Now my children see me as solid and adult, without realizing that I never became one.
DepositPhotos
Child-rearing and education It's very complicated and long. There are no parents who pass it without mistakes.
Without sprinkling your head with ashes, you need to strive for responsibility. Personality of the child in the process of education It is formed by 70%, and only 30% is the result of self-education.
Read more about how to raise a daughter, and about the rules of raising boys in our articles. Follow the links.
