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How much children love their pets
We are easily attached to pets. We get used to their character, quirks, interests. Pet care It becomes an integral part of our lives, and we soon have no idea what we would do without their company.
Not surprisingly, the death of a pet that has become a member of the family causes bitterness and tears even in adults. What can we say about a small child for whom the animal was a loyal friend?
And today's edition. "Site" How to help your child survive the loss of a pet. After all, in such a difficult situation, parents often make unforgivable mistakes.
Beloved pet Marishka from the first years of life had a love for animals, but parents stubbornly refused to have a dog or a cat – in the apartment and so it was cramped. And to take care of the pet in adults simply did not have time. Therefore, the girl’s persuasion on mom and dad did not work.
Finally, on the seventh birthday, Mariska was presented with a cage with a real lump of joy - a hamster. This wonderful animal was called Funtic. His intelligence and cheerful disposition conquered everyone who spent even a few minutes with him. And the girl in it and did not want a soul. However, after about a year, Mariska's father found Funtik lifeless.
The parents conferred and decided to tell the daughter as it is. And so that Mariska did not have any illusions, they even thought to show proof - the body of a favorite. As a result, the girl experienced a real shock, which ended in a nervous breakdown. Parents had to go to a psychologist.
This story clearly shows how not to bring a child bad news. After all, no one needs radical methods in such a difficult situation, although not all adults understand this.
When an animal appears in the house, all members of the family see it as a living soul and become attached to it. Children endow animals with human consciousness: they talk to them, share experiences and secrets, and seek consolation. Whether it’s a parrot, dog or hamster, losing it will be a tragedy.
To help a child, you cannot go to extremes. It is definitely not necessary to deceive a gullible child, telling that the animal went far to visit distant relatives or fled to an unknown direction. In this case, the child will either wait for years “in trouble” pet, or go in search. If you find the truth, you will not forgive the fraud.
It is impossible to ridicule the suffering of a child, trying to cheer him up. Phrases like, "Well, you're dead, Barsik, so what's going on now?" You will have a dozen more of them - clearly will not help to cope with stress, but only hurt.
At the age of 5, you can carefully explain to a child that his pet died and, for example, went to heaven. But he still loves his little master and will remember him. At such an early age, children rarely perceive death as something permanent, and this helps them cope with grief.
At the age of 7-9 years, a child already understands that death is forever. Therefore, it is important that parents and other loved ones share the grief. Words are selected individually. If a child believes in God, he knows that only the body is corrupt and the soul is eternal. It'll help you survive the loss.
If your pet is sick And he's never going to get better, so it makes sense to have a second friend. This will make it easier to bear the inevitable loss of the first.
Some kids are going through it. petting easier, others harder. It depends on the level of attachment, on the environment, and, of course, on the parents. Therefore, if the situation is out of control and the child can not cope with the incident, contact a psychologist. Professional help in such a difficult situation will not hurt.
Earlier we talked about how to raise an independent child. And also shared the advice of a psychologist on how to raise a baby happy person. Listen to these tips, because they have been tested by more than one generation of parents.
Not surprisingly, the death of a pet that has become a member of the family causes bitterness and tears even in adults. What can we say about a small child for whom the animal was a loyal friend?
And today's edition. "Site" How to help your child survive the loss of a pet. After all, in such a difficult situation, parents often make unforgivable mistakes.
Beloved pet Marishka from the first years of life had a love for animals, but parents stubbornly refused to have a dog or a cat – in the apartment and so it was cramped. And to take care of the pet in adults simply did not have time. Therefore, the girl’s persuasion on mom and dad did not work.
Finally, on the seventh birthday, Mariska was presented with a cage with a real lump of joy - a hamster. This wonderful animal was called Funtic. His intelligence and cheerful disposition conquered everyone who spent even a few minutes with him. And the girl in it and did not want a soul. However, after about a year, Mariska's father found Funtik lifeless.
The parents conferred and decided to tell the daughter as it is. And so that Mariska did not have any illusions, they even thought to show proof - the body of a favorite. As a result, the girl experienced a real shock, which ended in a nervous breakdown. Parents had to go to a psychologist.
This story clearly shows how not to bring a child bad news. After all, no one needs radical methods in such a difficult situation, although not all adults understand this.
When an animal appears in the house, all members of the family see it as a living soul and become attached to it. Children endow animals with human consciousness: they talk to them, share experiences and secrets, and seek consolation. Whether it’s a parrot, dog or hamster, losing it will be a tragedy.
To help a child, you cannot go to extremes. It is definitely not necessary to deceive a gullible child, telling that the animal went far to visit distant relatives or fled to an unknown direction. In this case, the child will either wait for years “in trouble” pet, or go in search. If you find the truth, you will not forgive the fraud.
It is impossible to ridicule the suffering of a child, trying to cheer him up. Phrases like, "Well, you're dead, Barsik, so what's going on now?" You will have a dozen more of them - clearly will not help to cope with stress, but only hurt.
At the age of 5, you can carefully explain to a child that his pet died and, for example, went to heaven. But he still loves his little master and will remember him. At such an early age, children rarely perceive death as something permanent, and this helps them cope with grief.
At the age of 7-9 years, a child already understands that death is forever. Therefore, it is important that parents and other loved ones share the grief. Words are selected individually. If a child believes in God, he knows that only the body is corrupt and the soul is eternal. It'll help you survive the loss.
If your pet is sick And he's never going to get better, so it makes sense to have a second friend. This will make it easier to bear the inevitable loss of the first.
Some kids are going through it. petting easier, others harder. It depends on the level of attachment, on the environment, and, of course, on the parents. Therefore, if the situation is out of control and the child can not cope with the incident, contact a psychologist. Professional help in such a difficult situation will not hurt.
Earlier we talked about how to raise an independent child. And also shared the advice of a psychologist on how to raise a baby happy person. Listen to these tips, because they have been tested by more than one generation of parents.
